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why did you make him comfortable enough to CRY to you.
If he ever does it again.. just be like
"erm, this is kinda awkward and I cant understand you. so errrr I am gonna go. Ill call you"
and bow out.
why did you make him comfortable enough to CRY to you. If he ever does it again.. just be like
"erm, this is kinda awkward and I cant understand you. so errrr I am gonna go. Ill call you"
and bow out.
Good advice.
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Just a thought thraping me mind ' ... would you all stick to your ' throw a benny ' statements , if a girl is standing in the same accused box instead of a fella ?
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Why would you live in an Oak Tree in particular. Do you have something against Poplars?
Just a thought thraping me mind ' ... would you all stick to your ' throw a benny ' statements , if a girl is standing in the same accused box instead of a fella ?
I am a fella and my advice would be same if a fella is in the same situation.
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The ex= trouble
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hello i thought i might update on the EX situation!
Basically on the first day he didnt talk to me and ignored me but i actully didnt get affected wooo!!! i think my showing him im not affected made him realise hes the one who looks bad so for the past week we have been pretty civil with eachother and its been fine! i dont really get affected by his presence like i thought i would which is good :)
He has called me a couple of times for geneal chit chat and the convo has lasted about 5 mins or so, i havnt initiated any contact with him yet i do want to be friends a few months down the line and i hope it works out that way.
I think my romantic feelings for him are slowly fading especially as i reflect on how he has treated me in the past and i have learnt alot about myself in the process.
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Good to hear alvena...glad you are able to interact with him without feeling the need to go further...thats the key.
Dont talk to him everytime he calls...you want to make it clear that you're not interested anymore and if you are available every single time...he will take it as a green light for other things.
Miss his calls every so often.
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thanks psqured! i think missing a few phone calls is a good idea!!
I think some of u may know my story...but in breif someone was in my life for 3 years, it all went a bit wrong...his decision...and he left me....i was very very very upset and desperately wanted him back.....but i started concentrating on myself and found a new love for my life and realised i could do so so so much better....he was very confusing throughout....wanted me back then didnt want me....but we all went off back home for summer and i am about to return to uni tomrow
BUT.
This ex calls me.....i have just got off the phone to him....he was crying and begging me to take him back and he has changed and realised his mistakes and he will make me happy etc etc...i still care for him so his crying made me very upset BUT i still said no, i dont want to get back together because he didnt treat me right and i like my free life atm and i want to live out my youth.
Now the problem is...we have to work closely together in the hospital and there is no getting out of it....and im fine now...but im worried about how i will be when i see him!!! Im worried i will get upset or it wll really awkward.
Also im a bit nervous about going back because i lost loads of friends because of him and want to rekindle my friendships and make new friends inshallah.
overall im kinda worried about being a bit lonely....i live away from home, no 'bf' and have to make new friends, i am a social and outgoing person but its like first day of uni all over again!
where do you live?
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why do u know who i am?
Im scared!!!
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noo lol i wantedto know if u could switch hospitals?
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no we have to work to together as in we are in the same group and its a massive hassle to change!
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Even if its a hassle, isn't it worth it to change? I wouldn't want to see his face everyday, that would interfere with my studying
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its actually pretty much impossible^
BUTTT he asked me to go out for dinner tonight....i said no....but he was like ' ure in tonight im free tonight we could chill together'
Is he not getting the hint or is he trying to 'be friends'
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DONT GO !!!
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or GO, but dont bother opening another thread about it 
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of course im not going! i just think he needs to get the hint!!!
Like today he was called me again to ask about dinner and i was like NO seriously NO and he was like but 'ill be all alone' and i was just like get used to it!!!
i need to make it clear!
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Um he's going after you because you're not showing interest. As soon as you show interest, he'll act like a jerk/weirdo again. Stay A W A Y. He sounds manipulative and demented to be honest