Well, let’s say you’re the religious sort and your spouse is not…does that cause a lot of friction between the two?
Opinions from married couples here?
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yes. its bound to, in most cases. even if involuntarily on part of the spouses.
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it could be problem if they criticize each other.
big :nono:
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its bound to create problems......unless one of them just gives up.
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works perfectly between us…now work out yourself who’s the religious one. 
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Religion = philosophy= values. How did they end up married if something so basic is out of line? Unless of course, 1 person has lots of opinions and the other doesn't have any/is indifferent, in which case it's still an unbalanced relationship.
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my husband is far more religious then I am. It hasn't been a problem thus far. we both understand that each one of us is responsible for our own aamal at the end, and while he will occasionally, gently remind/coax me to practice more ... its never a lecture or nagging or attitude/anger/fight.
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In Pakistani culture, its the husband who sets religious standards and the wife only follows it. A wife cannot be liberal if the husband is conservative but there will be no problem if the the wife is conservative and the husband is not. So the wife being equally or more religious than husband does not cause any friction.
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We don't seem to have an issue...he is more religious than me, he might tell me sometimes to read more on Islam...but we have not had any issues yet...
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no it doesn't create any issues. i think my hubby is more religious than me ...but he often consults me on a lot of matters ...so we both are striving together to be better Muslims Alhamdullilah :)
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hehe but am sure you must have become a more practising Muslim day by day too…thus no friction or issues ! one learns and adapts as time passes ..it is all but natural:)
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Peace Reha
Your opening thread asks the question "The Religious" vs "The Non-Religious" ... it's because there is a perception that difference carries greater importance than similarity ... but that is not the case ...
Common ground versus Difference - is hence the answer to the above, because although being religious and/or not so religious is just like two people having a race and one runs a bit faster ... They are indeed both facing the same way and that is where the focus should lie.
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I feel like the term 'religious' has a misleading connotation to it. Muslims can either be practicing, non-practicing or partially practicing.
As far as the spouse was concerned, if he didn't do the basics such as praying regularly, fasting or indulged in alcohol, zina etc., then it would have created issues. I always thought about the long-term side of my marriage and I'd want my kids to have certain values and qualities inshallah and if their father doesn't possess those values it'll be harder to instill them in our kids.
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It's more important to be internally faithful than outwardly religious.
A faithful person can only be happy with a faithful person. A truly deceitful person can only be truly happy with a deceitful person.
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so...is it Religious vs 'less' Religious
or
Religious vs 'non'-religious???
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For a religious person that does not necessairly do Pardah etc but has a sense of belief in God will find it difficult to live with someone that's non-religious aka dosent believe in religion nor god (Athiest).
However I think a person who is a bit more religious than their spouse (who also is religious but not the same extent) the relationships will work?
Agree with NomiCA religious vs less religious or religious vs non-religious.
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When I got married, my husband would do Juma prayer and Rozas only. full time music and movies etc.
Where as I tried to pray and read islamic books and try to follow islam in my daily as well.
Now after 5 and half years, he goes to mosque, tries to pray daily and stopped listening to music; mostly has islamic cds in his car.
I workd hard on him on this issue and there were had times too. actually once i ended up shout so much at him for missing his fajar praying in ramandan that all family rushed to our room.:D
I am happy that he changed alot but its not his fault too. he grew up in pakistan and he never went to mosque; not even in Ramandan. His parents prayed but never really pressured kids to do. his cousins and friends all the same.
but now as we are out of paksitan, he feels more attached to Islam as well, and we do have weekly discussions on this topic.:)
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…that seems like coercion…
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I don't think you can force anyone to be religious. If we do something, we do it because we want to do it. Enforcing rules on soemone is just that, enforcing it. You can't change what's in their heart. They may be praying because they see their strict spouse around but not because they want to do it.
Between me and my husband, we have different views on Islam. We don't agree on a lot of things as far as just views and opinions are. Now when it comes to prayers, rozas and all, he is more religious then I am. He doesn't say anything to me, our parents do however. They ask us constantly if we've been praying, fasting and all. Because we oppose in opinions on some basic matters, we do end up having arguments sometimes.
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Dudes ... you are confusing irreligious with non-religious ... non-religious means having faith but not being adherent to the rites and practices - irreligious is faithlessness ... I don't believe the OP made a thread for a couple who are of different faiths or where one person is a kafir ! ... Writing non-religious was correct ...