Yes it is a bit OTT to change the direction of this thread … this is my way of sanitising the matter for myself. However, the main thread topic is a good anecdote.
mit jemandem unter vier Augen sprechen
I am however convinced that Tayyebeh is not German. By the way I do not know German, but that was not what I was looking for, it was the dealing of my question and response manner which was more important to me.