Re: The rationale of modern marriage
IMO Marriage still provides a more secure environment to raise a family.
Re. who chops vegetables vs who earns the cash, let each couple figure it out for themselves! Why you be so bothered? 
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I fail to find one.
There has to be more to it than sex. With women pushing for equal rights, [why does seking equal rights undermine marriage] the rationality of marriage itself is vanishing. Where it once used to transcend feelings, egos and passions, where husbands once had the sole juridical responsibility [is assumption of sole juridical responsibility by the husband just?], now it's nothing more than a power struggle with a fragile plot [why is marriage a power struggle - shouldn't it be an equal partnership, with both partners equally vested and responsible for the success of the relationship?]. If something so moot and pointless as hurt feelings, bruised egos or incompatibility can bring upon the downfall of a marriage, what's the point of putting up the charade anyway? It's not the lack of love. It's the lack of mutual f***** respect. It's the abandoning of traditional gender roles. It is the ridiculous idea of wives thinking of themselves as equals **[you say it's the lack of mutual respect and then you proceed to insult women by suggesting they're not equal to their male counterparts - as if they are a lesser being in the relationship].
"I chop the wood, you cook the food". How hard is it to grasp? **[And if one spouse was incapacitated and unable to fulfill their role, should the marriage end or should the other as a supportive partner assist their spouse in helping to run and manage the family and household?]
Readings books, watching TV, we have all been raised to believe that someday we will all find the love of our life, the soul mate, with whom we'll live happily ever after. So it's not suprising that as soon as our married lives start veering away from our pre-conceived notions of "love", divorce starts looking like a tempting prospect. And how convenient if divorce is no longer looked down upon in the modern society. You know what else is perfectly acceptable in the modern society? Homosexuality. [bringing in homesexuality undermines your previous point - it's irrelevant to your initial argument.]
I was sickened beyond belief when someone on here mentioned a husband raising kids at home while his wife was out there making a living, putting food on the table. Orgasm inducing for most, vomit inducing for me. Is that what a modern marriage is supposed to be like? A p**** whipped husband changing diapers on his kids. He might as well have himself castrated. *****
Your argument suggests that traditional marriages were far better - but ask those women who were treated like chattel, never respected or treated as any more than a bed partner and broodmare.
I'm not advocating for either traditional definitions of marriage and family or modern definitions - how a couple chooses to live their lives is up to them. But a successful marriage, whether it be a modern marriage or traditional marriage is dependent on whether their exists between the partners compassion, compromise, respect and empathy.*
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One of the best posts I’ve come across on this forum. :k:
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i like how all the focus is on Plan B… even if it would end up in ruining the whole of Plan A…
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Come here baby, I’ll cook you biryani you wont ever forget and you can chop off your wood for me. 
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And yeah, that's what I really meant to say. ;)
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Men hunt and women gather. Why is it so hard for today's couples to understand this?
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^Because we don’t live in a hunter-gatherer society anymore.
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Are you kidding me? It's totally still a hunting and gathering society.
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Because in their blind quest of gender equality women are giving up on their natural gender roles (comforting, nurturing and supporting). And are instead chasing the masculine roles (leading, governing and disciplining). The premise of gender equality is based upon women abandoning the very reason men seek women. Thus rendering a marriage pointless.
Absolutely. It is all about inherent gender limitations. For men it is the inability to have babies or breastfeeding them. Women on the other hand are physically and emotionally weaker, again by inherent design. Men have, since the dawn of time served women’s need of a protector, and a provider. Men are responsible for protecting and providing for their women. The beauty of it lies in the delicate balance of each gender’s needs being met by the other.
Now the part where it’s awfully hard not to sound like a misogynist. Women aren’t designed to be the leaders. They are emotionally unstable and incapable of putting reason ahead of emotions. They let self-esteem and emotions take precedence over reason. Don’t believe me? Take a gander at some of the threads in this forum.
When women start buying the idea of them being “equals”, it leads to an inevitable power struggle. Equality does not equate to women taking on masculine roles, it means equality in contribution. I am all for women having jobs, but that does not absolve them from their “home-maker” duty. Nor does it serve as an excuse for their male partners to take on the feminine role.
Respect for a supporting wife, a nurturing mother. Not for a control-freak b****. And respect for a husband as the head of the household.
It’s one the those exceptions which work both ways. Losing your job isn’t one. McDonald’s is always hiring. Get 2 jobs, heck even 3 if you have to. Pride is dying virtue among modern day men. Going into a marriage a guy has to realize that he is ultimately in charge of his partner’s life, which means he’s responsible for ensuring her welfare even at the cost of his own life. This is a heavy responsibility that ALL men bear in any functional relationship. Any other duties pale in comparison; if he wants to split some housework with his wife because she is unable to, he definitely should. But at the end of the day he should be the one who wears the pants in their relationship.
Well then disregard the homosexuality bit 
Again, if a guy chooses to split housework with his wife, it’s entirely up to him. But sitting at home while your wife is out there making a living is so wrong on so many levels. It’s not born out of pure and selfless love. It’s born out of pure faggotry.
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this will be the beginning of chai smiley posts
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It does not matter who hunts and who cooks, it boils down to having mutual compassion for each other and to know that they might just be as happy or miserable as the other. Couples forget that both are somewhat victims of each other and both are to responsible for making the marriage work. IMO equality in a relationship doesnt come from sharing the physical workload and it does play a role but it comes from the mutual work a husband and wife play to create a happy enviornment for themselves and their children.
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^very feel good post :k: