There has to be more to it than sex. With women pushing for equal rights, the rationality of marriage itself is vanishing. Where it once used to transcend feelings, egos and passions, where husbands once had the sole juridical responsibility, now it’s nothing more than a power struggle with a fragile plot. If something so moot and pointless as hurt feelings, bruised egos or incompatibility can bring upon the downfall of a marriage, what’s the point of putting up the charade anyway? It’s not the lack of love. It’s the lack of mutual f***** respect. It’s the abandoning of traditional gender roles. It is the ridiculous idea of wives thinking of themselves as equals.
“I chop the wood, you cook the food”. How hard is it to grasp?
Readings books, watching TV, we have all been raised to believe that someday we will all find the love of our life, the soul mate, with whom we’ll live happily ever after. So it’s not suprising that as soon as our married lives start veering away from our pre-conceived notions of “love”, divorce starts looking like a tempting prospect. And how convenient if divorce is no longer looked down upon in the modern society. You know what else is perfectly acceptable in the modern society? Homosexuality.
I was sickened beyond belief when someone on here mentioned a husband raising kids at home while his wife was out there making a living, putting food on the table. Orgasm inducing for most, vomit inducing for me. Is that what a modern marriage is supposed to be like? A p**** whipped husband changing diapers on his kids. He might as well have himself castrated.
In my opinion... People (mainly girls) are more concerned with having a wedding than a marriage.
Kanye Shrug
couldn't agree with you more! i call it the "i-want-to-be-a-bride-not-a-wife" syndrome. look no further than the wedding forum. what happes when you the whole three hours you're going to wear that fabulous Bunto creation is over? (no offense meant to ANYONE!!)
^ depends where you are. I think… (woops that was for Miss Mano)..
I guess many girls dont understand that marriage requires a lot of work.. cus after those few hours at the wedding… its a lot of hard work and devotion and maturity that is required.
khair, I am totally off topic here.
I dont know what modern marriage is.
But marriage to me, as i see it, is two people working together… and that could mean anything. Both of them working.. one working while the other is at home (working).
Its a team… there’s no room for equality battles. There shouldnt be.
Exactly. I get that everyone wants to feel like a princess, but at what cost?
What does having a designer dress, lavish decor, insane this and that at your wedding prove?
It’s more and more obvious that people are (obviously) acknowledging the wedding of two people, but forget that it’s marraige of two families.
I agree. The old school mentality that “woman stays home and pops out babies and they guy brings home the bread” has been long forgotten.
It’s not about being modern or having equality battles. In todays society and economy, one source of income isn’t always enough.
Females want to be able to stand on thier own who feet and not have to depend on someone (even a husband) to provide. That doesnt mean that he shouldnt, or that she doesn’t want him to.
But I agree with OP as far as the dude staying home and the woman being the sole provider for the family. Vatt Baqwass!!
^ adding do that, even if you can survive on one person's income... and good on those people who can.. but for whatever reason, if the man cannot provide anymore... the woman needs to be able to keep the family going.
I like depending on my man for certain things, but I know, if he wasnt around, I am quite capable of doing it on my own.
To me, its women who think they are incapable of surviving without a man, that make me sad.
you were living without the man, you can do so afterwards too. Sure, in certain societies it can be hard and daunting at times.. but where there is a will, there is a way
(woops that was for Miss Mano)..