Re: The rationale of modern marriage
I fail to find one.
There has to be more to it than sex. With women pushing for equal rights, [why does seking equal rights undermine marriage] the rationality of marriage itself is vanishing. Where it once used to transcend feelings, egos and passions, where husbands once had the sole juridical responsibility [is assumption of sole juridical responsibility by the husband just?] , now it’s nothing more than a power struggle with a fragile plot [why is marriage a power struggle - shouldn’t it be an equal partnership, with both partners equally vested and responsible for the success of the relationship?] . If something so moot and pointless as hurt feelings, bruised egos or incompatibility can bring upon the downfall of a marriage, what’s the point of putting up the charade anyway? It’s not the lack of love. It’s the lack of mutual f***** respect. It’s the abandoning of traditional gender roles. It is the ridiculous idea of wives thinking of themselves as equals **[you say it’s the lack of mutual respect and then you proceed to insult women by suggesting they’re not equal to their male counterparts - as if they are a lesser being in the relationship].
**“I chop the wood, you cook the food”. How hard is it to grasp? [And if one spouse was incapacitated and unable to fulfill their role, should the marriage end or should the other as a supportive partner assist their spouse in helping to run and manage the family and household?]
Readings books, watching TV, we have all been raised to believe that someday we will all find the love of our life, the soul mate, with whom we’ll live happily ever after. So it’s not suprising that as soon as our married lives start veering away from our pre-conceived notions of “love”, divorce starts looking like a tempting prospect. And how convenient if divorce is no longer looked down upon in the modern society. You know what else is perfectly acceptable in the modern society? Homosexuality. [bringing in homesexuality undermines your previous point - it’s irrelevant to your initial argument.]
I was sickened beyond belief when someone on here mentioned a husband raising kids at home while his wife was out there making a living, putting food on the table. Orgasm inducing for most, vomit inducing for me. Is that what a modern marriage is supposed to be like? A p**** whipped husband changing diapers on his kids. He might as well have himself castrated. *****
Your argument suggests that traditional marriages were far better - but ask those women who were treated like chattel, never respected or treated as any more than a bed partner and broodmare.
I’m not advocating for either traditional definitions of marriage and family or modern definitions - how a couple chooses to live their lives is up to them. But a successful marriage, whether it be a modern marriage or traditional marriage is dependent on whether their exists between the partners compassion, compromise, respect and empathy.*