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Well, I have been on this forum for around 3/4 months max.The only people I find here are those who have nothing to deal in practical world, can stay online for a whole day & then they complain about no rishtay(proposals) for them.
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It’s truly a wonder that a gem like you got hitched. 
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Its the internet woman. If you are coming to GS for advice you got bigger issues than we do. The internet is not a place to seek advice. Your friends and family are your best source of support and advice because only they have your true interests at heart.
I couldn't give a damn if someone is fighting with their MIL. However if my sister, cousin or friend have an issue yeah I care. Otherwise I don't.
As for question 4 I have a question for you. Does the fact that you are seeking advice on the internet mean you have no real relationships at all that you need to seek advice online? Now on to your questions.
lol you still live in 1999. In the future 2012 most people use the internet looking for a solution to their problems ... tech, gadgets, cars, gardening, health, study, research, religion etc. I think a stranger could give you the best unbiased advice.
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All of you suggesting that you want advice from complete strangers. Put your money where you mouth is.
When was the last time you asked advice on GS in public?
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I've been following this forum for a while but only post on it when I have something meaningful to ask or say. I see many others who post on it incessantly and don't even offer meaningful advice. I was frankly quite disappointed with this forum when I sought advice here once about a dress but it turned into a personal attack on people's own in-laws and since then haven't bothered. But recently I find that many posters motivations for being on this forum really disturb me. Many who frequent this forum need to evaluate why they post here and/or find more meaningful ways to channel their ill-feelings towards other.
That said, I have a few questions for those who post here regularly.
1) Do you consider this to be a place where people offer genuine advice or is this just somewhere you can rant about problems in your life? 2) When you post here about some genuine issue are you looking for your opinion to be changed or do you simply want your voice to be heard? 3) Many of you criticize others people in your life on this forum. Do you ever approach those people in real life and try to resolve those issues or are you closed up to them in real life? 4) Do you ever find yourself investing so much time in this forum that it prevents you from having real social relationships?
Peace azmaira12
If you doubt the motives of the posters on this forum then - why do you think you will get a serious answer for your questions? And what makes you feel that people here will take you seriously, after stating what you stated about them?
The trick is to be truthful but not disclosing ... gauge responses in such a way that you can learn from them ... expect some people to be idiots and others to give proper replies - also expect the idiots to give proper replies now and again ... Become a regular and people will start to trust your questioning and start to offer more and more serious advice ...
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I think it’s sarcasm.
Some people pick up on it, others don’t.
Sarcasm is a tricky thing to portray online. And some people take it as a dig and become defensive, I being one of them :sid:.
I asked for advice, and when I didn’t like what I read, I got all angry manno-ish and acted stupid.
BUT, like many people said, it’s (usually) an unbiased opinion. So asking someone for advice on a “Real life” matter, and expecting them to view situations and have the same answer that you’d wnt to hear, is silly.
Bakki… There are some awesome discussions and advice being thrown around in other portions of the forum, i.e. Health & Fitness, Fashion, Home & Cuisine, vagera vagera.
For me, personally, I don’t have much interaction with desis. So to kinda sorta in a way connect with desis in the western world is nice!! They are or have gone through the same or similar situations.
Bashing an entire forum based on a few jokes or troll-ish-ness is also silly 
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Quiet you. No making me look wrong! :p
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How many time OP tells the true story and not temper the facts? Most of the time its one sided story with heavily loaded facts bailing out OP of any wrong doing and seeking to approve their position instead of getting genuine advise.
Even if the posters here are sincere, what are the chance that someone will get right advise by just reveling one side of the story?
Believe it or not, some people have the ability to tell a story based on the circumstances in their entirety and without disregarding self-incriminating points. If a poster does want honest answers they would tell the whole story, even if that makes them seem not so great. I have done this before, even if that led people to point fingers at me. Why? Because at least there's honesty there.
And that's the beauty of sharing things online. Sometimes you're not so willing to reveal all aspects of a situation to friends because you don't want to share the humiliating/difficult to deal with parts.
The point is that whatever people do decide to share, they expect to get honest, helpful, thought-out, and appropriate/relevant responses. But when people post annoying, hateful comments and are unnecessary/rude, it's just pathetic and wrong.
It's common sense: don't reply to a thread unless you have something meaningful to contribute. Some forum members need to learn this.
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Quite a few of the genuine problems on here are caused by people they know.. 'My mum is pressuring me to marry my cousin, she says who else is going to marry me'.. That's hardly having their best interest at heart.. I think it's healthy to get unbiased advice from ppl not involved in the situation..
I also find it interesting that some posters (not you) feel 'threatened' by advice given to others on GS.. Quite strange that they see free discussion as such a negative thing and then ironically talk about others having 'agendas'..
Got to agree.
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Sometimes you dont have anyone in real life to talk to because you dont want anyone in your family/friends to know you are having problems. It is also a good place just to vent and get your feelings out when you cant turn to anyone else.
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Ditto saimab33
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deeba and saimab are right .. a couple of other people sound bitter ..
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Its mind boggling the "issues" that people come up with and they never really listen to the advice we give.
I find that what CM says is true but I also agree with Deeba. People shouldn't take what GS people say so seriously but the advice they give I believe to be genuine.
Now there will always be fights and people being nasty to each other but thats only because this is a forum and a lot of personalities which wouldn't be talking to each other meet here.
Its to be expected really :P
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Can someone clue the clueless in on :p <3 etc.
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Found out by accident : colon followed by p is above smile.
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How many time OP tells the true story and not temper the facts? Most of the time its one sided story with heavily loaded facts bailing out OP of any wrong doing and seeking to approve their position instead of getting genuine advise.
Even if the posters here are sincere, what are the chance that someone will get right advise by just reveling one side of the story?
And the fact that advice seekers are, more often than not, told to move on based on that one-sided account. That is criminal in my opinion.
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I am positive that was a sarcast but I ll take it as a compliment.Flowers are words which even a babe may understand…They smell great, seems fresh form the farms 
Honestly, I am your secret admirer, you are so toughtful in dealing with others, I really admire your rational approach towards peoples probs.I love the way you express yourself in your posts, they are to the point and dynamic.
I wonder why so many people here deeply admire you, is it your magentic aura, your ability to hypnotize with your elegantly-selected proper vocab to use or is it you know very well how to make people feel comfortable around you.
Anyways, I am not being chivalrous, just being honest.There are many other people here who sound very mature, for insatnce, STA, Inspi, qtc and many more but you really are a class apart.
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well i also have this prblm but now i know that if u bring ur persnl prblms here people will make fun of that and give u wrng advice also for eg. break yur relation and etc i have this exprnce i discuss my prblm with my finace so here very well know member suggest me to break before marriage and when i said what advc r u giving me they said i am only saying for u etc etc from then i got lesson never shre yur prblms here becoz may be u need advice but other people just want some fun after reading that ... but here many members r really co operative also i really appericate them they r really nice and give u nice advice also .. as cm said this is internet world so don trust any1 here just discuss with yur family or close frnds :)
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