The peer faqeer syndrome

[madz124]

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@muqawwee123

I think its in the nature of most of the ladies. They have to struggle more to reach God than men. This is the struggle, which make them wander and strive in such ways. In Bano Qudsia’s words, a woman is basically Aarif e Duniya.. Preoccupied with worldly love (for father, husband and son - remember there are no concepts like patni parmeshwar for men)… When she wants to start her journey towards God (i.e. to be Saalik e Khuda), she has to put behind all these worldly love and therefore the struggle, which takes different forms like peeri faqeeri, taweez ganda, etc. Its basically lack of sakoon that lead people to indulge in such activities ( be it men or ladies).

Muqawwee, I’m not sure I follow your logic. If we’re talking about wordly love, there is a lot that can be said about men too … money, power, women/pleasure, escapism, etc.
I see going to peer fakeers, instead of turning to Quran, as weak faith. And to me, loving Allah’s creation and serving them is not poor faith. If anything, it strengthens our imaan ke jisne duniya aur hamaare loved ones ko banaaya hai, woh khud kitna khubsoorat/mukammal/azeem hoga.

[diwana]

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^ You might be surprised, how many ‘educated’ ‘high class’ people and women believe in peeri muridi or doing ‘bayt’ on an ‘Aalim’, “Roohani Peshwa”, making that person almost complete controller of their lives, and thoughts.

[Muzna]

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I wanna know more about the deficient intelligence of women and where the prophet pbuh makes such reference.

If someone can provide direct quotes on this matter, I will be eternally grateful.
Please and Thank you.

[ButtSb]

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You ain’t gonna accept it anyways..so whats the point of asking for reference?

[Le_Pakistan]

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@madz124

I think this is mostly prevalent in areas where women are mainly housewives / men are the main breadwinners, and joint family system is common. So pretty much in Pakistan and India. These women spend a lot of time dealing with drama associated with saas-susr/bhabhi/nand/jithani/etc. Their daily lives are hectic and their problems are centered around their families. Compared to that, their husbands/brothers/fathers are busy earning for the khandaan, so they have little time to worry about micro problems like why saas gives preferential treatment to bahu#3 and how to woo the MIL so she will finally acknowledge all my efforts towards this family.

Apart from the nature of problems each gender faces, I think lack of higher education among these women is another big factor, as men provide for the family so it’s imp they are well educated to succeed in their respective careers (not so imp to send women to college/university). So if someone is having difficulty conceiving a child, their first thought is not to consult the doctor but to find out from the peers if perhaps jithani sahiba is doing jaadu tona (because hey, I did find that extra roll of hair under my pillow the other day that didn’t belong to me and we all know, jithani has her eyes set on inheritance money belonging to first child to be born in the family).

Very rarely, we do find highly educated and resourceful women from upper class who also turn to these peer fakeers. I think they do so out of desperation. Sort of as a last resort to find a quick fix to their problems. Being a socialite and an elitist, they were probably never too close to religion to begin with and their lifestyle didn’t allow for much time to nurture their family and home. So when trouble knocks on the door, they don’t know whom to turn to. A person is easier to talk to (much like therapy sessions with a psychiatrist); it’s harder to “get answers” from Allah when you’re not accustomed to doing so.

I think that is a major misconception that the educated and rich (upperclass) people rarely indulge in such shady matters. I recall watching this documentary on black magic and taweez business, and this ‘magician’ also said that it’s the rich people who bring in the big money and keep the business going.

Education and or social (economical) status has nothing to do with it. It’s weakness, paranoia, jealousy, insecurity, vindictiveness and hunger for power that makes people do this.

[madz124]

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@Le_Pakistan

I think that is a major misconception that the educated and rich (upperclass) people rarely indulge in such shady matters. I recall watching this documentary on black magic and taweez business, and this ‘magician’ also said that it’s the rich people who bring in the big money and keep the business going.

hmm interesting! I come from a village in Pakistan. So in my limited experience, I saw the lower class with such mentality that the explanation for all their problems must be buri nazar, taaweez ganda, jaadu tona, etc. Beta bigar gaya hai, tu peer baba ke pass chalen. Aulaad nahi ho rahi tu baba ji ke darbaar chalen. Fasal achi nahi rahi is season main, tu yaqeenan kisi ne kuch karwaya hai.
But it makes sense that the big money probably comes from loaded families where the stakes are much higher.

[Blacklisted_Prince]

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Peers Faqeers like peer double shah
Society ka satyanaas !

[Khan4Life]

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Peer Faqeer can be real or fake. The real ones help out people in religious matters and give proper guidance to their mureeds and don’t take money like the other fake who give ads in newspapers for e.g. ‘Peer Aamil Shah, mehboob aapke qadmoon par, biwi shohar saas qaboo mein, all bs’. The peer faqeer is more related to Sufism part of Islam. I never went to them but my uncle was mureed of one buzurg and he asked him to make him his mureed so buzurg said first you’ve to fulfill one condition that go and start pray 5 times with jamaat for one year then come back so my Uncle asked how would you know if I’m praying or not so he replied we know everything, so for me they aren’t doing anything wrong if bringing somebody back on the right track.