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[LP]

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@third_string

Good stuff happens to good people.

The Pharoah’s wife Asiyah (R. A) was a good person whereas Pharaoh was not.

[Illuminate]

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Because the “right person” doesn’t really exist.
You have the make the most of the situation and person you end up with. Find someone with similar values and don’t compromise on your non-negotiables.

[aqua70]

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@third_string

Good stuff happens to good people.

Not necessarily, I have seen bad stuff happen to good people and good stuff happen to bad people, there is no guarantee.

[third_string]

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@aqua70

Not necessarily, I have seen bad stuff happen to good people and good stuff happen to bad people, there is no guarantee.

Well the Quran says that you attract that people that are like you.

[LP]

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[LP]

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@aqua70

Not necessarily, I have seen bad stuff happen to good people and good stuff happen to bad people, there is no guarantee.

Same here.

[Illuminate]

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I agree with @Thirdstring. Good things do happen to good people. They might not always be in the form we are looking for. Even Islamically Allah promises to gives us better then what he’s taken and each test we have in life removes our sins or gives us rewards.

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[NavAhmed]

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haha interesting topic! the elusive Right person, who doesn’t really exist lol

you don’t need the right person, or a wrong person, or even not any person…

just live your life and enjoy, its a journey, if someone ever hopes over into your boat by mistake (or not), than good on them…

just march along comrades, life has so much to offer than just a partner.

[Bobby1]

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@IsaidwhatIsaid

Either expectations are too high or people in general suck. The latter is more likely.

There is just a huge confusion over gender roles as society is dealing with the new women empowerment. I just dealt with a couple of really nice young Punjabi Indian couples, they both had such great chemistry and mutual respect. In one case this beautiful girl was a CPA and the husband had been laid of but still she was respectful yet she definitely seemed to be the decision maker, second case was both were consultants for health care. Things work really well when there is gender equality and females are allowed an edge in major lifes decisions.

[Bobby1]

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Okay noobs, listen very carefully..it doesn’t happen , you have to build it and you have to make it happen. Great relationships are a lot of commitment and a lot of work and you build it one brick at a time, you show appreciation, you show love and caring, you do nice things on a daily basis, compromise, be patient and dont get get upset. One bad comment takes away seven good deeds. So in the end if you deposited way more positives than negatives then you have a great relationship. When I married my wife I promised that I will have a great relationship and I did, when I had children I promised I will have a great relationship and I do, when I got my job I promised that I will have great relationships at work and I did..it is really not a stroke of luck, you make relationship goals and work on it.

[NavAhmed]

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I have also noted some people tend to be very negative and pessimistic from the very beginning. They may have had bad past experiences/broken hearts/damaged trusts etc but these should only serve as a reminder how things can go wrong and what to look for and what to avoid in any future relationship, not as tools to define, shape up and engulf your future relationships.

There is no need to start a potential relationship with negativity and an inherently eternal resolution that things will not work out and only something mega positive or wow can only make them believe again (and heal their past pain which should never have had to come into equation in the first place)

I like Bobby’s comments that it takes lot of hardwork and dedication to make it work, and sometimes with perseverance and determination, the ‘wrong’ person can be turned around, but of course both persons need to play their part there.

[Bobby1]

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@NavAhmed

I have also noted some people tend to be very negative and pessimistic from the very beginning. They may have had bad past experiences/broken hearts/damaged trusts etc but these should only serve as a reminder how things can go wrong and what to look for and what to avoid in any future relationship, not as tools to define, shape up and engulf your future relationships.

There is no need to start a potential relationship with negativity and an inherently eternal resolution that things will not work out and only something mega positive or wow can only make them believe again (and heal their past pain which should never have had to come into equation in the first place)

I like Bobby’s comments that it takes lot of hardwork and dedication to make it work, and sometimes with perseverance and determination, the ‘wrong’ person can be turned around, but of course both persons need to play their part there.

You are so right, our beliefs become our reality. Hostile people will be surrounded by hostility, good people will be surrounded with goodness.

[NavAhmed]

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@Bobby1

**our beliefs become our reality **

Indeed.

[FreshBakedPi]

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@third_string

Good stuff happens to good people.

Life is not this simple mon ami :hinna:

[aqua70]

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@NavAhmed

I have also noted some people tend to be very negative and pessimistic from the very beginning. They may have had bad past experiences/broken hearts/damaged trusts etc but these should only serve as a reminder how things can go wrong and what to look for and what to avoid in any future relationship, not as tools to define, shape up and engulf your future relationships.

There is no need to start a potential relationship with negativity and an inherently eternal resolution that things will not work out and only something mega positive or wow can only make them believe again (and heal their past pain which should never have had to come into equation in the first place)

I like Bobby’s comments that it takes lot of hardwork and dedication to make it work, and sometimes with perseverance and determination, the ‘wrong’ person can be turned around, but of course both persons need to play their part there.

Ok thank you, I will keep your advice in mind.

[NavAhmed]

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@aqua70

Ok thank you, I will keep your advice in mind.

It was a general comment and an observation.

[aqua70]

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@NavAhmed

It was a general comment and an observation.

Lol I know.

[Cheegum]

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The grass is greener where you water it.

[Melodrama]

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Life01, Are you there?
Seems like he woke up confused and lost in the middle of the night and has totally forgotten about this thread now.

[HamzaKhan]

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@NavAhmed

I have also noted some people tend to be very negative and pessimistic from the very beginning. They may have had bad past experiences/broken hearts/damaged trusts etc but these should only serve as a reminder how things can go wrong and what to look for and what to avoid in any future relationship, not as tools to define, shape up and engulf your future relationships.

There is no need to start a potential relationship with negativity and an inherently eternal resolution that things will not work out and only something mega positive or wow can only make them believe again (and heal their past pain which should never have had to come into equation in the first place)

I like Bobby’s comments that it takes lot of hardwork and dedication to make it work, and sometimes with perseverance and determination, the ‘wrong’ person can be turned around, but of course both persons need to play their part there.

Too true.