I have asked my mom NOT to consider a guy for me if he is less than 30. Sometimes when a guy 29-30 or his family is ok in proceeding because of any particular reason (usually happens if they are looking for good height) and I make fuss of the guy’s age being very young, my mom says, unhe koi problem nahi hai tau tumhe kia problem hai? But I know, there will not be compatibility and at some point, I will get to hear the TAANA for my age and how I would have started to look like Amma of my husband.
Therefore, I am only looking for 32+ guys. Guys less than 32 are REJECTED. Bus keh dia
This isn't about me. Topic is - is it reasonable to reject someone because THEY'RE THE SAME AGE AS YOU.
Is it rational? Really?
Everyone has their preferences/requirements. You know a lot of desi guys (if not most) seek girls who are considerably younger than themselves. Why is this news to you?
They also break traffic lights, don't pay their taxes, don't do anything when they see beggar girls knocking on their car windows, and are ok with running people over on the street with reckless driving.
:hinna: PCG, you lost me with this comment. How is a generalization (and arguably an incorrect and unfair generalization) about this type of behaviour relevant to your generalization about Pakistani guys preferring a younger woman?
My point is that these same people are from a quom that does things that doesn't make any sense, participates in immoral behavior, etc, so how can I validate the "preferences" of these guys. Mind you, in this same culture, you'll find some families marrying teenagers off to 40 yr old men, without any problem. They have the batameezi to quote the Prophet to justify their sick behavior.
There's NO rationality in refusing someone off the bat becuase of age. None. I could be totally compatible with a guy my age, but if he rejects me because of it, he's missing out on possibly a good relationship. Same goes for a younger guy with a slightly older girl, and same goes for a younger girl with a slightly older guy.
I'm not saying we should ALL marry people our own age, that's impractical. But age shouldn't be the ONE reason you say - Hey, I'm not even gonna talk to this person. Oddly enough that very guy admitted to me that he thinks I seem fun and nice and would have a good personality, but he's just looking for someone younger.
And yet, we as a community, justify irrational behavior? But that's ok, irrationality is our norm - we see it in our daily routine. The only reason why we behave as civilized human beings in OTHER countries, is cuz we dont want to land in jail. Otherwise, Pakistanis are a jaahil quom and you see that clear as day in Pakistan.
PCG , the upside is that one less loser in your list , he does not deserve a nice girl like you.
See I am one of those nice desies who think you deserve better than that loser.
P.S1: I am not looking , I am married and have only one wife and 3 kids.
P.S2: It pains me to see desi men being stereotyped , there are millions of nice desi men out there , Allah k ghar dair hay , andhair nahi.
SO why are you wanting to marry a Pakistani? There is no compulsion for it in religion either. Apna bhi bhala karo aur dosre ka bhi, go find a non-Pakistani!
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And what's wrong with demanding better of your people? It's this attitude of well, this is just how it is, kya karein, that has landed us the reputation that we have. Even our own people don't want a green passport anymore.
hahahaha, this is true. What with their amma jee yeh kehti hain, na, amma woh kehti hai na, meri behn yeh kehti hain na, meri cousin thrice removed yeh kehti hain na, aap karein na jo mere ghar wala kehte hain
Talk about yourself Just because a bunch of fools think this way, it doesnt mean we all think like that :halo:.
I never said wanting better from our people is wrong but making generalizations in so good. And i truly believe that those who have been brought up abroad should settle for Muslims who have been brought up the same way cuz otherwise it can get pretty messy.
And what's wrong with demanding better of your people? It's this attitude of well, this is just how it is, kya karein, that has landed us the reputation that we have. Even our own people don't want a green passport anymore.
there are 2 things
1) demanding by encouraging
2) demanding by insulting
unfortunately, many of us, many times, opt for second one.
PCG, what kinds of guys are you running into? All wierdos 
Just because a bunch of fools think this way, it doesnt mean we all think like that :halo:.