I am just glad things worked out. That is why i say..there is time, place and more importantly situation in everything. Couple one day gotta move out if they have to…but do not pull the plug off like that. Parents can be very very emotional to deal with these kinda thing. All it requires is patience…which is very very tough on couple. Especially a husband. Congrats inspi. May Allah continue to bless you and your husband.
Re: The moving out of the in-laws house conversation
You move away. reduce the frequency of visits to the parents house. Slowly they will get used to it. In the start they will call you again n again, may be visit more often. However, if you keep a distance - they will eventually get the hint. And then onwards, you or your husband wouldn’t have to worry so much, as you are doing now.
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I totally agree 
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Shukar that the subject has been handled and I’m glad that she is already coming around.
I know of a mother that threatened to kill herself when her son wanted to marry a girl of his choice…despite our efforts to convince her otherwise, she held her grudge for several years, refusing to even see her own son after the marriage.
Khair…may Allah keep you all in His care, ameen!
Re: The moving out of the in-laws house conversation
Thanks everyone.
MIL has started talking on the phone loudly/infront of us to her relatives - teary saying things like ‘i never dreamed this day would happen to me’ ’ patha yeh nahi tha ke yeh hashar hoga’
I am trying to not pay attention but it does make me sad.
Question - should we tell her we are viewing properties? or just make an excuse and say we are leaving to meet friends?
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Try to be honest about what you are doing in so far as it doesn’t hurt her more.
I would even invite her to come see the properties with you if the invitation is not seen as “salt being thrown on her wounds”…
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No reason for you to bed sad. Remind yourself that she is trying to manipulate you and your husband. Threat of suicide, being pouty, talking to herself in a morbid manner…none of that got her the attention she wanted. So she’s trying another tactic. She’s hoping you/your husband/FIL…someone will react to this. As long as everyone ignores this behavior…I guarantee you it will stop soon.
Trust your husband’s judgement on this. He has lived with his mother a lot longer than you lol. He already told you it’s a bad idea. Again her behavior should show you whether or not she is ready to be involved in this. Right now, not only will she make the trip to view properties awkward and full of tension…the entire time you and your husband will stay focused on her behavior and the guilty trip she will put on you…instead of evaluating the property itself.
This has already caused enough tension with her. For now, do what you can in order to prevent further arguments/outbursts/tension. So unless your husband says otherwise…tell MIL that you’re meeting friends.