Hi Everyone,
So, what do all the married and unmarried people think is the most important thing in today’s marriages?
What is absolutely necessary to have in the potential girl or guy?
What do you find to be your wife’s or husband’s most admirable quality? What keeps you two together?
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Family
Education
Compassion
Spirituality
Moral Values
Passionate
Being understanding,caring,patient,tolerant,honest..etc..fall into the subcategories of the above.
Mashallah.......I treasure these qualities in him..
Alhamdulliah.
^ LOL
Im serious!
so am I,
I can't get married because I can't find a girl.
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Uff!
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what?
what?
Don't get this thread locked too!
Family Education Compassion Spirituality Moral Values Passionate
Being understanding,caring,patient,tolerant,honest..etc..fall into the subcategories of the above. Mashallah.......I treasure these qualities in him..
Alhamdulliah.
Aww, you sound so happy Chanda Mashallah! Hope it stays that way! :)
Don't get this thread locked too!
it didn't get that other thread locked.
I loved the topic in that thread.
Aww, you sound so happy Chanda Mashallah! Hope it stays that way! :)
AMEEN!! :)
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Of course! Ameen! :)
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I think it is different for different people.For some it may be looks, for some religiousness, for some culture....etc etc.The guy and the girl has to decide that for himself/herself
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^ I think it also changes with time.
Ive got three friends (all a bit younger than me) and its quite interesting to see how their view on marriage or partner has changed overtime...
i believe, u cant always be so grounded in your opinion either.. there has got to be room to move.. that allows people to grow together..
For me its honesty, trust, patience, respect, maturity and love...
I think it is different for different people.For some it may be looks, for some religiousness, for some culture....etc etc.The guy and the girl has to decide that for himself/herself
Tell us what you value
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Love is the key ingredient! Everything else is secondary!
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^ true, but all the other things combined increase that love.
You need other things to formulate your love for someone.. it just doesnt exist by itself :)
^ true, but all the other things combined increase that love.
You need other things to formulate your love for someone.. it just doesnt exist by itself :)
Yes it does, if its really there and strong enough, its self sustainable :)
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^ but whats ur reasoning for loving someone? u love them because u love them?
i thought u love someone because of a reason.. like some people love someone for someones outer beauty (aka love at first site) others love another because they give them that special feeling...
im talking nonsense.. in my head i know what i mean
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Honesty, respect towards each other, mutual regard for each other, confidence in each other, care that is unconditional for each other and towards causes and family members of each other, concern for comfort of each other, always guarding own persons for each other and not giving any chance for any kind of infidelity or cheating which can run havoc and chaos in even the best of the best relations among spouses, being on the same page and keeping each other on the same page, reminding each other of the vows made and the promises not as a chagrin, but as affirmations said time and again with warm love and gratitude, indicating expectations of being there with each other and for each other, always, never saying 'whatever' or sounding unhappy over little things that might just be very insignificant such as why did you make this in dinner today or why are you coming home late, unless the difference is deliberate and caused to annoy each other and in that case, patiently and lovingly getting to know the reasons for such behaviors will become a must to repair the souring relations, over finances and family - never fighting their fights or useless fights - for that staying budgeted and also setting limits for own families, as to how much they can state something about the spouse or their family, supporting each other fully in the community centers, among people who know the two as a couple, always calling and ensuring that the spouse is fine at work, never sleeping without waiting for the spouse, warming up tea or food with loving care, praying for the well being and success of the spouse, caring for children in the way that the spouse wishes, hopefully that will be reasonable ways, protecting the spouse in public and in the family when someone is trying to be rude to them, holding each other in times of hard ships and loss, frustration or fear, illness and old age... all of this not just worded but practiced.