Re: The money tree is drying up
Well the situation is pretty much resolved. My bhabi is expecting, so she will be quitting her job and they will be decreasing their contribution. My BIL and husband spoke with nand's ex, who will be paying school fees and supporting the kids. They then told nand she is no longer allowed to withhold the kids from him, and that she is being given a shopping budget.
BIL will open accounts for both my nand and ILs before he leaves Pakistan, and give them debit cards. He is also opening another account for emergencies that will require either him or my husband to approve any withdrawals. At least two plots will be sold to fund this account, which leaves several others, and the village revenues. They will build on the ISB plot and rent it out, which should provide some residual income, and allow us to reduce what we send every month.
My BIL told his sister that she needs to find something other than shopping to occupy her time now that she is divorced, and that she can't expect to live as lavishly as she did while married, otherwise she should sell some of her jewelry or her plots if she needs more money.
Bhabi will be quitting her job, and I hope to eventually quite mine, or at least scale back my hours a lot. The fallout of all of this is going to be horrible for awhile, but I think in the long-term, it is a big relief for my husband and his brother. It had just gotten too out of control, and no one was willing to say enough.