It's then up to the man if he accepts the woman's conditions. Humans are fickle complex creatures - blind faith isn't enough for me. One must protect ones self at as much as possible. I don't know why the women on this forum get irked by my views on protecting ones self in case of divorce.
As far as divorce goes - no one goes into marriage thinking of divorce, however as I have stated, numbers, particularly here in the UK, don't lie. My parents are married 40 years, but I observe so many men getting shafted in divorce courts (none of these men by the way thought they would get divorced when they got married). So what's wrong with a little bit of self preservation and protection before getting married?
A woman adds stipulations to her nikkah - it is her right. A man engages in self preservation - he is a misogynist and a pig? Go figure.
Islam gives a person the right to divorce. But divorce is one of the most hated halal things that Allah has allowed. It is a last resort and only if nothing is working out. You are so hell bent on equal rights and equal responsibilities and men getting their due after divorce that you are missing the point of marriage.
Some other post you mentioned that the Prophet pbuh would have walked away after divorce with his rights etc. Actually no. The prophet pbuh showed us how to make marriage a success. You are missing the point by focusing on divorce. Anyways whatever. You're obviously stuck on this idea. Noones going to change your mind. Inshallah may Allah give you a good wife and make you a good husband as is seen in His eyes. Ameen.
Also that Ramadhan dua advice? I was being genuine. I wasn't saying it sarcastically. Only dua changes destiny.
Seems like a great thread, the reason many of us do not thrive is because of us trying to take things in a literal sense, society has evolved and rules are different now especially in the west. In times ago the income involved wars, and physical labor and it was not safe for females to venture out. Modern nuclear family is based on equality and partners share all responsibility, when I make an omelet in the morning she wouldn't appreciate if I told her that the omelets all mine and if I give her some it is an omelet khairaat. She is not required to praise my omlete charity.
I have yet to see a single Muslim woman here settle by Islamic domestic laws in a divorce situation, they claim abuse, they try to take custody of kids, take house alimony etc.
When I was married to the western lady the partnership was very productive, she had her professional ambitions, we worked in the yard together, she would mow and shovel and paint, we would hike mountains go biking camping etc.
Gender roles re now eliminated and I absolutely do not think that this is unislamic. We all need to raise our boys and girls with all life skills.
