The Money of the Female

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Have a quick listen to this:

I’m curious to know how many men and women already knew what is shared in this video and also their thoughts on the subject.

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Alhamdulilah, I kindda already grew up with these values in my house, among relatives near and far, in my grandfather household, or my dad's etc. So, its so obvoius like 1+1=2 for me. I do realize that the ignorance and abuse is rampant in households and often the corrupt-ego is dressed with religious phraseology. God protect me from ignorance during any part of my life and only increase us all in our wisdom.

"Musalman Hai Touheed Me Garam Josh Magar Dil Abhi Tak Hai Zunnar Posh..." Baal-e-jibrael, Alama Iqbal

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assalamualaikum

yeah Alhamdulilah being a muslimah…Allah subhan wa ta’alla has given all our rights Alhamdulilah..you know muzna..woman’s share of the inherited wealth only half that of a man…and that wealth is her alone…many women get annoyed why half…but they dont know that wealth is just for herself alone…but man is responsible for taking of her whether the man is brother,uncle or any relation. How beautifully Allah has set our rights Alhamdulilah..all we need to learn our deen properly to understand our and other rights.

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w/Salam sister.

There are so many women that live their lives without ever knowing this.....so many that are pressured into working to support their families.....pressured into believing that their husbands/fathers etc are doing ehsan by paying for their food, shelter and necessities of life; they are burdened with needless guilt to ensure subservience.

What a feeling of freedom they must feel when they learn that every penny they spend on the care of their loved ones is sadaqa for them! Alhamdulillah.

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I know it. I think Islam protected women rights from all crucial matters and financial independence in one of them. Subhan Allah

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I am very glad Muzna baji..you have posted such an informative post. Unfortunately, in our Indo-Pak culture..women do go through psychological torture. In some cases, pshychological abuse starts out from In-Laws. To have "control" over her. Especially, calling girl's parents and torturing her father..that "what kind of daughter you have raised". Utterly disgusting behaviour. Parents' who have had done..such..they will be fully accountable in day of judgment for what they said out of their tounge as well as amal.
And of course..all of us as well. We should ask tauba and astaghfar always.

Few months ago, i was attending some group sessions at local community centre about such forum where we all discussed the kind of abuses women and men go through in light of Indo-Pak culture. May Allah protect us all...really. That is my prayer for everyone.

As far as what woman earns....it is her right fully on that what she has. If she spends on her family it is her ihsaan..therefore charity. Very beautiful indeed. May Allah make all of us..who not only say in words..but act good and in kindness always.

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@Xtron

I used to feel bad about how hard my mother worked when she was alive. She studied hard to be a nurse to provide for her family. Then when she migrated to Canada, she went back to school and studied again to learn a new trade with which she contributed to the family income. It was considered "necessary" because if she didn't then how was my father going to support the family back home as well as provide for his family here? So yes, it was not by choice that she worked.

Now I see the fruits of her labor. Not only did she instill in me a sense of dignity, integrity and confidence, she impacted so, so many other lives. I see my phupho's families and their children and I know what they will never know.

Now I am no longer sad for the hard life that she lived. I am proud of her. And I am relieved that Allah swt will count all of the money that she earned and spent on others as sadaqa. I am more at peace with her loss knowing that she has likely earned herself a comfortable existence in the hereafter, insha Allah.

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Ameen! Could have not said it better myself!

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Ameen, may Allah reward her in the next life.

As a working mother it’s nice to know that all our hard work will be rewarded even when we can only see the now.

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Agree with slavery thingie. I have seen many households where Bahoo/BV is treated as nothing more than a slave, mental slave that is.

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The purpose of posting this was not really to high-light how some women are treated with less than respect....but to educate the women about their rights and to bring to the attention of the men that when their wives are "contributing" financially to their household, they are not merely doing what is "expected" of a partner; rather they are doing him a favour for which Allah will reward them.

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^ i know. Many of the women are unaware of this just like they are not aware of the fact that women can get a right to divorce in Islam.

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The thing is, it depends where you come from. If you are based in Pakistan, I support what is being said.

However, if you live in the West, women have adequate protection in place by the law of the land (which is implemented, unlike Pakistan) - especially when it comes to divorce and familial finances

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^The last bit tends to apply if you're married and/or have children.. without those things women really don't have a right to the family home etc (if they're not listed as the homeowner obviously).. That's why some (dodgy) guys openly say they want a marriage with nikah only.. There really isn't such a thing as common law marriage here and a girl can live with a guy for 5 or 10 years, contribute to the bills and mortgage but if they're not 'official' and haven't written up contracts she could walk away with almost nothing..

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East or West, all lands belong to Allah. His law is for those in Pakistan and even the women in the West who have adequate protection as you say. Its not about supporting it if its only for Pakistan or some other third world country. If men are to obey Allah wherever they are living then they will give their wives this right which Allah has already given them.

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Works both ways - do wives deserve their god given rights: absolutely. How many western women give husbands their god given rights?

What are the rights of the husband and what are the rights of the wife? - islamqa.info

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Can someone tell me the title of this video?

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Yeah it works both ways and there are plenty of Muslim women who live in the west who also fear Allah and give their husbands their God given rights. You are confusing western women with Muslim women who live in the west. There’s a difference. And anyways this post wasn’t about wives getting their rights but forgetting the husband’s. You want a wife who gives her husband his rights? Then you need two people who fear and obey Allah. Not just one.

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The Money of the Female in Islam

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Very well said.
When such information is shared and discussed, it becomes obvious who is willing to accept fact and who will look for a way out.....