I donno how long I will need to continue this thread, this problem never gets solved.. Those who dont know mine is a love marriage. My MIL right after 1 month started asking me for some some and some jewellery. hiding from my husband. i gave.. nothing came back.. after 9 months husband came to know abt it. he told his elder bro. he told my sil.. and they all went against my mil.. asking her what she did with all that.
mil is not talking to me and hubby from 1 month, he didnt try talking but i did. i kept doing just for the sake of allah.
sil and bil also limited their talks with her..
BLAME ON me and my POOR HUBBY..
After a month my sil spoke to my mil and told everything. whatever i told my husband.. tiniest little things..
she comes to me shouts yells cries and does all drama. that she took me as a friend. i ruined everything. rishte sone se nahi kharide jaa sakte. was ur gold that important to u or ur husband?
bad mouthing my husband. who actually didnt utter a word to her.
everybody who shouted at her are all good.. only we are blamed. they earn in dollars and my husband in rupees.. she has to have good ties with them
i cried so so much.. cant speak to my parents abt it coz they ll be tensed and worried.
what do i do? how do i deal with this lady..
she just sidelines all the major issues and brings up all the unnecessary “y u said this, u said this also” just to put the blame on me.. its just getting horrible living here..
my husband is trying to move to dubai. i just wish it happens soon.. just pray for me guys really worried!!!! she was like maa ki haaye nikalri and all tht. when she is the one who does all wrong. secret debts, hiding stuff from her hubby and all.. i was just so worried hearing all that. allah mehfooz rakhe..
my dear husbad, they have suffered a lot coz of their mom earlier too.. so in that heart to heart skype convo he said it all.. telling her not to say also but women:smack:
Sheesh , sounds like a mess. But you had to share it with your husband because it wasn't fair on you to handle such a big thing by yourself. Not your fault that he and his brother and his bro's wife didn't manage the situation well. It's not your fault so don't blame yourself.
no... her behaviour! she has put the blame of all evils on my name.. for the gold its abt 8-9 tolas.. they monitarily dont matter.. only some things like hus engagement ring and wedding ring my parents gave him and some of my aunts stuff thats all tht matters
NO.. She does all this when no one is home.. only both of us.. just coz of the fear that i know many of her secrets which i may blurt out in front of everyone.
I did tell my husband. He just consoled me saying that let her say anything. he is on my side. and not to take any of her things to heart.
he also told me to reply her back politely and show her how she is wrong and all that. make her feel that she wronged but i didnt. coz she is a drama queen. if i cry a drop she ll shed buckets|!!!! if i raise my voice she yells and gets hysterical which i cant handle
I have a friend who recently got married.. She got around 20 tollas gold from in laws and after wedding the MIL took it back saying they will give that to SIL at her wedding as gold is very expensive so she can't afford to buy ..the husband of my friend didn't find anything wrong with it as the jewelry was given by his mom so she has the right to ask it back
I have a friend who recently got married.. She got around 20 tollas gold from in laws and after wedding the MIL took it back saying they will give that to SIL at her wedding as gold is very expensive so she can't afford to buy ..the husband of my friend didn't find anything wrong with it as the jewelry was given by his mom so she has the right to ask it back
NO the only set i got from my in laws was of 4-5 tolas.. that too from my husbands earnings. yes she took it behind everyones back! put it as rehen. the rest all was from my mom's side. which included my husbands diamond ring (engagement)
my mom and dad are not very rich. my mom never wore precious stones alll her life. yet she gave the best to me.. and that feeling makes it worse., :((((((((((((((
is that true MIL are like this?? i dont have MIL ...i always thought ke kash meri MIL hoti so we can easily talk with her becoz after engagemnt there are many things which we can discuss only with MIL becoz FIL are not mostly invloved in shoping like things
is that true MIL are like this?? i dont have MIL ...i always thought ke kash meri MIL hoti so we can easily talk with her becoz after engagemnt there are many things which we can discuss only with MIL becoz FIL are not mostly invloved in shoping like things
Not necessarily! Depends on person to person. Mine was the best till I kept listenning to her. We had our issues but did have a good time together. i used to do her eye makeup and straightenning her hairs lol.. The day I said NO i wont give any gold now she couldnt take it and things took a drastic change. kept getting bad to worse. allah mehfooz rakhe!
