The Man's experience in Rishta Hunting

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Re: The Man’s experience in Rishta Hunting

@Sasha21

Nothing’s stopping me I might have tried looking if that was what I wanted in the first place. But honestly speaking where would my husband have found a girl who was western educated but not settled there, an engineer who wouldnt pursue a career because she would have to move to Saudia after having lived in Dubai all her life, accepting her fate that she’s not allowed to drive or go out alone (because of the damn laws and social norms), and be a housewife/ stay at home mom. U find me a girl who has lived in the west all her life willing to move to Saudia for good.

I’m doing it. I was born and raised in the US, I’m college educated, and I’m very career driven. My fiance was born and raised in Pakistan and now lives and works in Saudi. He has always told me that he can live anywhere (Pakistan, Saudi, or US) as long as I’m happy. So he left the decision completely up to me. It wasn’t an easy decision and I put a lot of thought into it, but eventually I decided that I would move to Saudi. My decision was based on a lot of factors. The most important being the fact that aside from my parents, my fiance is the best person I’ve ever known. He is respectful, supportive, loving, and he places my happiness above all else. If you had asked me 2 or 3 years ago if I would ever be willing to move to Saudi Arabia, I would have told you something along the lines of, “Nope. Not ever. Wouldn’t happen in a million years.” But then I met him and as I got to know him, I realized this was a sacrifice I would be willing to make for him. He is happy in Saudi…he has a good job and is settled there. I knew how much it would mean to him if I were to move there. Yes, it means giving up my career and a lot of rights I have here in the States (driving, going out alone, etc), but I know I’ll always have his love and support to help me through the adjustments. I’m actually quite excited about the move. He was thrilled by my decision and I’m looking forward to new experiences in a new place which will help broaden my horizons. Of course, who knows what will happen in the future? I may hate it there we may decide to move back to the US. But there’s always the chance that I’ll end up liking it there and we’ll stay.

I think we are focusing too much on the negative stories in this thread. As another poster stated, we all know of success stories as well. I have several cousins and friends who have married guys from Pakistan and they all have very successful marriages. I think keeping an open mind is key here.