Re: The looser
First of all Pakistan legal system always support women for child custody matter, there is no other option for him.
Another thing, I was extensively involved in effort to save marriage, on base of what I realized I hate both.
She was abusive, used to assault him from start, also admitted having affair during marriage. She also confessed to making his life difficult in order to force him to divorce her.
I even told her if this is what she want then let her elders involve we reach some solution, but she told me that they would not support her on this. Thus want to make sure he would take blame.
On his side he also have an affair with other girl but always denied to us, we feels betrayed and used by him.
I am not sure what made them to have affair, either because she was so abusive that other girl was his staff at that time not so beautiful but a soft spoken person managed to win his heart.
On other side it is quite possible that, because of his affair Croce her to reconnect with her old flame.
Only god know the truth, but there is no angle here.
If what you are describing is true then i dont see why shouldnt you support him. Do you expect him to be celibate for rest of his life. I wouldnt blame him for having an affair if he had such a terrible wife, who also wanted to have a divorce.