There was a girl i met not too long ago…bengali gal…real pretty…cute with a really kiddish giggle…she was real sweet and a lot of fun to be around…
Basically…she had a friend who most people thought was stunning…she was cypriot with tanned skin and a nice figure and strong features…i just didnt find her interesting at all…she acted as if she was all a that…and i found her boring…i was looking for a real gal not a trophy…
Normally the Cypriot gal would get the guys after her…the bengali gal was pretty but her 4’10 frame made her not the conventional gal that guys would go for(lol grinding with a gal of that height was certainyl a strain on the legs)…
When i met her we got on really well…and it really seemed to puzzle her Cypriot friend why i had no interest in her…she didnt like me…but she sure as hell expected me to like her…and she would annoyingly try her best to act like a barrier between me and her friend…rather than be happy with the fact that her friend was getting somewhere…she tried her level best to ruin things…surely this isnt what friends do…but hey i think she couldnt stand the fact that someone liked her friend over her…
She did help ruin things eventually cos my perspective is that a relationship where the gals supposed best friend hates you is not a good position to be in and is doomed…i said to Amy(the Bengali)…thats its best we dont see each other because i dont want to come in between their friendship…its not a nice position to be in…your boyfriend and best friend disliking each other…when inside im seething cos there is no actual reason for her friend to dislike me…me and my friends were so pissed off at how this girl without knowing me had caused problems to something that seemed like it had potential…but you cant say to a gal that her friend is wrong…you’ve known her five minutes…shes known her friend for years…
I just think its a shame that there is so much jealousy amongst friends that they try and ruin things for each other…this isnt an isolated incident…lol in England we call them the Butters friend…the friend that ruins everything for you and her friend because you show no interest in her…she doesnt neccesarily like you but hates the fact that you like her friend…and more often than not they succeed in destroying things cos they are a friend and you are a newcomer…
Boys tend to be happy when their friends are doing well…we urge our boys on and congratulate rather than player hate…girls just seem to get jealous when their friends are doing well…
P.S…I tend to get attacked a lot on these threads…so ill say quickly…that i am not the only person that feels strongly on the subject…it may not be your reality but it certainly is something my friends and i have found to be quite prevalent…so disagree with me if you want to…but dont attack me unneccesarily…
very much interesting and incredibly common thing to be found in girls. I agree with u to the point where u mention how girls get jealous of their own frens happiness but watch out not every single girl is like that.
Yes, what i have seen now-a-days that almost 70% of the girls are living in the world of barbie/hot models type where they think that looking upto their best will make them get the most handsome or may be their dream prince of charm. I know i am talking totally off the topic but while reading ur thread i was more concentrating on the behaviour on that jealous girl that subhanallah even though she has the best figure and best-est looks that guys love to drop for but she was still couldn’t get the attention of every single guy in the world. i find that funny!
Thats why always love what u r from inside and always try to make changes in good ways in character not in looks! ALWAYS MIND OVER BODY!
PCG, stop picking on him. Just because he publicly admits that he dates and clubs, it doesn’t make him a bad person; he has every right to talk about religion or relationships.
Naughty, you ought to tell her the truth. She may not appreciate it since you said she’s known her for years and most likely values her friendship over yours, but at least it won’t be stuck inside you. Most likely she is used to the behavior or just cannot see it, as most of us can sometimes be blinded to a loved one’s imperfections.
Evilmastermind, yes it is important to love yourself. Character and personality will last long after looks, however it is important to be attractive. There’s nothign wrong with fixing your appearance (within reason). If you like how you look, you feel better about yourself and treat others better as well. It’s not wrong to change your body, lose/gain weight/muscle (healthy ways) or improve your skin or wear more flattering clothes
Lol…she isnt my girlfriend…i didnt have that luxury…cos her friend did a good job of ruining things…and like i said i met her a little while back…im not in direct contact with her…and its quite strange to get in contact to simply talk about how her friend isnt really a good friend…so roshi i agree with you…but dont really plan do do anything about it…
At the same time it was on her to be able to see past her friend…but she didnt…some responsibility is her own…she should be able to think independently…and decide what is best for her…and when you are a little insecure its easier to believe slander and avoid getting hurt…then to take a risk…
i didnt stand a chance against her friend…so while her friend is a bitch for ruining things…amy is naive for listening…and its easier when you are a little insecure which she was about her height and stuff…such that it was easy to be taken advnatage of by her ‘experienced’ friend and led to believe things which arent really there because she obviously knwos a lot better than amy how relationships and boys work:rolleyes: …
So no biggie…its just a shame thats all…but its old news now…my issue is that i dont understand why friends cant be happy for their friends rather than jeopardise things…lol incidents like this have happened more than once with me and friends and it is so annoying…but what to do?..
P.S…aint nothin wrong with short gals Chicago Base…
Naughty! Naughty you are! But I’m afraid…I agree with you here! (I’m not saying ALL girls do that but it’s something that I have very closely observed.)
(Hey I hope you do change names here to protect privacy of people involved.)
Your Bengali gal's friend is insecure in herself, whilst on the outside she is beautiful and can get all the guys she wants, but you've dealt her a blow by going out with her friend. Its not jealousy but insecurity. This Cypriot girl probably hasn't got many friends hence she chose to stick around with Amy knowing out of the two she's prettier and saw Amy has inferior. In a way its a kind of abuse really. Why don't you email or text Amy and see if she'd like to go out for a drink sometime and take it from there. Whatever you do don't mention her friend, when you meet up (hopefully she will take up on this) then slowly say you'd rather it were you two meeting up without the cypriot. Hopefully if shes got any sense she will realise whats been going on. On another note, shame on you saying grinding with a 4' 10" is a strain on the legs. My colleague and I ended up laughing so much, she's 4'11" and her husband is 6' 1". If you really like this girl then her height shouldnt be an issue.
lol Hot Ice Princess...i was playing...her height is an issue to her not to me...i thought her height was cute...it went with her shy playfullness and warm smile...the same things wouldnt have worked on a tall girl...
i went on a date with a girl who was 6'1'...im close to 5'11'...and that made me somewhat insecure...lol it doesnt feel right talking upwards...but as for short girls...thats all good...but yeh it did strain the knees...moving down that much...especially when shes wearing flats...
But it is her insecurity...she lacks confidence...and thats why she takes advice from her tall, 'beautiful' friend on the people she meets...
The issue happened early on the year so iv moved on from the issue...so im not really looking to pursue her again...but hopefully she is thinking independently now because i cant see her friend being supportive of anyone...and she'll come to that realisation that her friend isnt a good one...and she'll do well in the future...its not really my place to make her realise that...thats something she needs to learn for herself...
Sara516, I have no problem with people admitting that they have a relationship. But if your every thread is about how you're with this girl and then with that one, it gets a bit sickening. Lets say I were to open such threads. I'd be a "whore" to all concerned here.
Its when he says crap like this that I find it disgusting, and for which I ask him to boast about himself specifically in his own journal.
lol grinding with a gal of that height was certainyl a strain on the legs)...
I'm sorry, are girls just tools for you idiots? Have you told your bengali girl this?
And what is even more sickening is that the way these guys talk, it makes you really believe that there must be just as many girls out there who are not respectful of their own selves. Otherwise what girl in her right mind is going to go out with a guy like this that speaks of her on an internet forum in such a vile way?
PCG...seriously you are the most annoying girl who i fortunately havent had the pleasure of meeting...lighten the hell up...what is your problem?...
Boys meet girls and girls meet boys...and the first gal you meet isnt neccesarily going to be the one you wanna stay with and vice versa...so iv met a lot of girls...so f***** what?...im a whore why?...cos i meet girls?...
You attack me for boasting...i didnt get the girl...some boast eh?...just brought up an unfortunate reality of how female friendships actually can be...and how that bothered me...
And my god...what vile and disgusting things have i said?...here you go with your embellishment again...i said i grinded with the girl...just cos you have no concept of dancing or physical intimacy...dont attack me for dancing with a girl that i like...its a fun thing to do for her and I...of course in your closed mentality...if the man is having fun...it must be at the girls expense...please...you are sooo full of ****...
And even the comment is in jest...i said to her to wear heels next time and she laughed...lol everything is vile to you...i suppose if i said she gave me a kiss...thats vile too?...any kind of contact between man and woman seems vile to you?...
And there is nothing wrong with some of the girls i meet...its just arrogant people like yourself who feel like you are above everybody...god save and protect the man that ends up with you...i feel for that poor soul...
And i also feel pity for you that you have nothing in you but cynicism, fantasy, arrogance, pride, being judgmental, melodrama, permanent PMT, unrealistic expectation and stupidity...cos poor girl...nothing will ever make you happy...
So good luck with that pathetic existence of yours...
Suroor...
My mum knows exactly what i get upto and with whom...i dont need to hide anything from her...she had the unfortunate reality of having her marriage arranged to a fool...
So she encourages me to meet girls...and make sure i end up with the right one...What exact 'activities' should she be so worried about?...
i find that funny!
