The Intimate 5th/6th Graders

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It is not irresponsible, it is a fact. Also your message is a bit confusing. On the one hand you say you blame the adult then you say:

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If 12 year olds r going to dress/act like 18 year olds they will get treated as such
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That is akin to saying that they deserve the treatment they get and it is the child's fault. If it is the adult's fault then the child should be treated respectfully as a child and the adult should be taken to task. Blaming a child for a lack of direction is pointless and a bit cruel. Provocative dancing from a child is the fault of..... who?? the child or the adult teaching and allowing it?

Adults are responsible, not children. You have the right to be outraged but apply it to the right people.

The second part of your post illustrates my point, YOU expect it to be followed, but you just don't let anyone wear what they want. If they do something behind ur back, it is usually small, not all out. I totally agree with you here :)

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ok i take my words back

sorry if i say too much

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thats sad..makes me wanna not have kids

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Awwww, insan, I said you made some good points :) don't go away...... I love a good debate, hon.

Tikhi - kids are a mixed blessing, that is for sure, but the good can outweigh the bad if you have enough patience.

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minah_pa,

You are allowing absolutely no place for shades of grey. :)

Law recognises that it has set arbitary standards which may contrast hugely with events in practice. Unfortunately Law in not a sentient entity. Hence, it is the job of the law enforcers to recognise that they cannot treat a 12 year old on the same level as an adult, or a 15 year old on the same bearing as a child. (Consequently we have laws such as statuory rape, age of consent being as low as 13 in some places etc)

Children are also held responsible - to an extent. 18 is afterall an arbitary age. While it is necessary to establish a 'cut-off' age, the actual process of maturity starts far before that. Unless mentally retarded, a 17 year old dopehead is completely aware of the implications and consequences of his action. If they weren't then there wouldn't be any juvenille prisons, or rehablitation centres for crimes committed by teens/children. Going by your logic, parents would be held completely responsible for each and every miscouduct on the part of minors, which is an insult to both parents and commonsense.

Re: you provocative dancing example.

That depends on the age. If the minor in question is in highschool than the actual action is the fault of the child. (provided the child is not forced to act against his/her will) The adult in question can indeed be held liable for teaching the said dance, but to lay complete and total blame at his feet, we will need to assume that either a TEENAGER has completely no will of his/her own or is a complete vegetable.

Responsibility comes in many guises and forms and everyone, be it child or adult, bear their own sort of responsibility. Even in the eyes of Law.

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i think i offended u baji thats why i lean back. still i dsagree with u and can argue on those issues.

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Mr. X - I know I wasn't. I know that kids mature at different ages and under law there are different guideline.

The reason I use 18 is because that is legally an adult. I am not discounting the responsibility of a teen doing a provacative dance or dressing a certain way, but it is still a child doing that. They had to walk in front of their parents that way or a teacher or some adult that didn't say a word, even to say, that's not appropriate. So the adults are the ones that should be criticized not the kids in that instance.

My problem is reading that a child "deserves" what they get doing those things. No, they don't. period. Lecture, yes, fine. Being hit on by dirty old men and groped, no, adults don't even deserve that treatment. I should be able to walk down a street naked without one person touching me inappropriately. Realistically, that is Utopia, but you get my drift, right?

I am not saying blame the parents for everything, but seriously, when you watch your kid leave the house in inappropriate clothing or don't monitor the friends they have or what they do and something real bad happens - is that the fault of the parents or the child? Parents are responsible for character development and the application of guilt ( :) ) so a child doing something wrong at least knows it.

Slightly off topic here, you know what I find ironically amusing. A person under the age of 18 cannot sign a contract or if they do it is void, but a child of 15/16 (13 where?) can consent to sex. Now, I wonder, who does that benefit?

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I dont know..I wanna like spoil my kids and give em everything they want, give em freedom to judge whats right and wrong but then i see ppl like that n i am like errr no thanx, i would rather not

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Minah, you have said it yourself. What you say is correct and should be valid, but only in a perfect world. Now you have two options, to continue to pretend that it’s a perfect world and take your chances, or you can be on the safe side and take precautions. I would much prefer the latter :slight_smile:

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minah_pa,

Legal age of consent is 13 in Korea, Spain and Nigeria. In Chile, Mexico, Paraguay and Colombia it is 12. In many Gulf countries it is reported to be in single figures. 14 is also pretty common around the globe. The lowest inside United States is 14 in Iowa. (For females)

www.ageofconsent.com is an excellent and pretty dependable resource for age-based laws and assorted paraphernalia.

Re: Sex

   A justification used by some people is that parents should hold no legal right over their children's physical body and acts involving it. Hence, age of consent and abortion without parental notification. However, a look at body modification laws, including piercing (which need parental permission) totally dispels it. 

   Anyway, minors will go on having sex no matter what happens. By reducing the age to 14 or 15 or 16 the government just extradites itself from a lot of essentially petty little hormonal quibbles. :p 

   Seriously though, a contract is different from sex. A teen is held responsible enough to drive at 18, to marry before that, to die for his country but cannot buy liquor legally till the age of 21? Now, what universal justification is there for this? (Pub age was initially set at 21 due to the sudden increase in drunken traffic incidents after it was lowered to 19/18 for a while) Government found real-life evidence and made logical assumptions that drunken 18-21 drivers were generally incompetent and a threat to the society.

  In the same vein it can be said that society determined your average teenager was mature enough to engage in sexual intercourse at the age of 16 without any serious aftermaths. Of course, the age may vary considerably from person to person but as I mentioned earlier a minimum-line has to be drawn somewhere to keep any semblance of order in the system. 

Maturity has many levels, and you can be deemed mature enough for certain acts whilst being barred from others.

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I catch your drift but I still have to disagree in large part. If a seventeen/sixteen/fifteen year old walks naked down the street of own consent, then he does 'deserve' what he gets. I honestly cannot see it anyway else. The key point here is whether the person in question is fully aware of the implications and consequences of his actions? A normal seventeen year old 'aught' to have sense enough not to walk naked down the street, or to kill anyone, break into someone's house etc. When you break a law, you are punished. The very fact that a teen knew the law and deliberately broke it shows how much he cares for it.

You cannot go on flaunting your own lifestyle at the expense and inconvenience of others. (which is what you or I would be doing if we walk naked along Times Square)

I ask you this: Do you believe that a 12 year child who committed a murder in cold blood be punished? Or do you think that a 12 year old child is somehow incapable of understanding the insinuation of the very idea and hence shouldn't be held responsible for it?

I don't exactly get the instance you are talking about. What is to say that the parents of the couple who were sitting in the 'Jalebi' position don't dissuade their child? And If they do admonish them, while the child still does the same thing again and again, then do you still believe the parents are to be blamed?

We don't have enough evidence from PCG's anecdotal evidence to rule one way or the other. Indeed, we ourselves are looking at it from a distinctively tainted perspective. Some might argue that the very acts in which the children were languishing aren't wrong.

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Mr. X - Think there is a miscommunication somewhere :) I was wondering where all this was coming from in the last few posts until I stepped back and read them again.

I was addressing a comment someone made that any child dressing a certain way deserves what they get when I was making my posting. I don't know what people are reading into it, but my posts are only geared toward the whole idea a child can be blamed for what adult's do to the child as a result of the child's action's or misbehavior's and it somehow got here.

I don't believe children are entirely blameless in some things, there are some bad apples out there. However parents and other adults are responsible for doing what they can to stop the behavior. If it takes 100, 1000, one million, five million times to take a child and say no, you do it. It is your job. I wasn't addressing this though, interesting a subject it may be.

My only thing was the fact that one poster said because children were wearing backless dresses the men were ogling (allowed :) ) and rubbing against them (NOT allowed). And I thought at the time that they were blaming the kids.

My only point is children are NOT responsible for the actions of adults. If an adult touches, has sex with, swears at, gives an attitude to a child, the adult is at fault. Adults should know how to conduct themselves, children are still learning. That was the point I was trying to make.

Now parents being responsible and childrens actions is another whole can of worms.

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Ah, It is easy to misunderstand words - specially when it is late in the evening and your eyes are literally drooping with sleep. :) Sorry for being party to the miscommunication.

I stand in complete agreement with your latest post.

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much worse in my school :slight_smile: after all we are rewarded with a lil baby siting room where STUDENTS can leave their children while they go take their class lol our school got the most PREGNENT gulz in the whole district and i heard in the whole COUNTY too :smiley: … HISPANICz ALL THE WAY !!! :hehe:

and the yngest gul with her baby i saw in my school was a 9th grader FISHY lol 14 yr old :slight_smile: cuuuute innit ?

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yeah this kissing, boy/girl friends and touching was common in the highschool. Being in that age group of 13-15, i have to say most teens are learning about their sexuality, then they see it in media, they see their peers experimenting and talking about it. This age, you are being exposed to more things (in school and outside), they are curious and most biggest thing for them is being "cool" to get attention. If parents have the mentality to let go of their "young and innocent" children then things like this will happen for sure. They will see it part of theri lifestyle and will not see the wrong with it. As mentioned above, most parents just dont take the time to explain that certain things are wrong and its outstanding circumstances. I am sure, kids these days are smarter, they can make decisions.

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lol good one…