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Originally posted by Old Monk: though I am convinced that the job of being housewife is not easy by any means.. I am of the opinion that being a housewife inhibits one's personality development and makes a woman too house and family centric. What do you think ?
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This thread was getting rather muddy so I have decided to pick out a specific facet and comment on it rather than get into the other discussions.
Before I proceed let me say that I have the utmost respect for any woman that performs the duties of a housewife. They are numerous and challenging enough to deserve our respect.
Having said that, I am forced to seriously consider the comments that Old Monk has made. Forced to wonder if his point, perhaps, might be true.
In order to fairly arrive at a conclusion, one must first decide what is considered "personality development" and what factors contribute to it.
Does it mean that, when all responsibilities/acts of a housewife are taken into account, there remains a void? A missing portion in her lifestyle that would otherwise cause her personality/character to grow in a different way? It's not an impossibility.
Also, does it mean that without that specific type of personality development a woman is incomplete?
Muzna i didnot want it to get this muddy
I wanted to convey without addressing to anyone to refrain from using any such comments in the future
I see now my effort has fallen on deaf ears, so i will leave the lost souls to their own destiny
may they learn with time
As for Old Monk's reply
I was amused, but he seems to have disappeared without explaining what he actually meant
So as to conclude a 9-5 Job at the office is responsible for personality growth?
Sadi my dear, without going into any further useless arguments with you
let me clear something for you
There is a big difference between a person themself stating that they would want to be a bed hopping slag and a person who you take the libery to personally attack
Ofcourse it does
One comes across all kinds of people, learns to deal with them, learns how to deal with different situations
What bout women who were working, then had babies and settled to be full time mums?
do their personalities also get effected?
One thing I have learned from experience is that when tending to families esp looking after babies
women fail to realize that at the same time they have to take care of themselves too
There is nothing wrong with having a career it does add another demension to the personality but to say that if an educated person decides to look after her children she would be in any way become inferior is plain stupid. It is a fact that smart mums raise smart and well adjusted children.
The society undervalues and doesn't give respect to the housework and child rearing because it does not translate into dollars. (In my opinion that is the most important work). For that reason women in droves are going out to work and sending their children to day cares (regimented places) to be looked after by total stangers. This has contributed to lot of adolescent problems such as bulling, drugs, teenage pregrancy and maladjusted children.
Anchal has raised a very important point, society has to give due respect to the women who raise future generation and ensure survival of the healthy happy family, otherwise women will continue to have very small family or no family and leave children in daycares (very little adult attention or stimulation). In the end whole generation will suffer...the problems have already starting to show in form of school yard bullying, guns in school, gangs, low acdemic performance and increase in use of drugs by teenagers.
[This message has been edited by Rani (edited July 04, 2001).]
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Originally posted by Anchal:
**What bout women who were working, then had babies and settled to be full time mums?
do their personalities also get effected?**
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You have summed it up yourself.
Personalities are impacted by their environment. This could be a positive or negative impact.
If a working woman starts a family and decides to stay home a part of her personality stops getting stimulated and, perhaps, stops growing. Whereas another facet of her personality begins to expand and grow. (This is not to say that she loses the smarts that she has already gained - not at all. Some of those skills may become rusty through lack of use but she wouldn't lose them altogether, I don't think.)
So a change occurs. Whether it is a good change or a bad change is relative to what is required of her at the given time and place.
Where a woman has chosen to never have a career outside the home at all...yes, it is likely that certain parts of her personality will remain undeveloped. There is nothing wrong in that. Just different. She will be skilled at what is required of her. She will meet different challenges......ones perhaps that her working counterpart might not meet so well.
So why the need to classify one as better than the other? I don't think that's fair.
Anchal, my 'generalisations' are not what you think they are. I was describing the type of person I would not want to marry. I don't believe that all housewives are the 'tied-to-the-cooker-blah-blah...' that I mentioned. What I was trying to say was that I'd prefer somone who puts us first and housework last.
I'm sorry if I offended you. That was not my intention.