m7md
March 17, 2018, 10:29am
134
Re: The hypocrisy of liberals
The climbing divorce rate is actually alarming to me as well but what else was to happen logically? Pushing women to extremes in Pakistan will produce these results. Its not an opinion, its what is happening. Less women want to live with abusive in-laws, less women want to be doormats, less women want to spend their lives living for others without asking for anything in return. I know several women in my mom’s generation who spent their entire lives in abusive marriages for the sake of their children. And I know several women in my own generation who walked out of abusive marriages with their children because they had the means to support themselves. Why would they not? It is better than being beaten in front of your children. And yes, I know Pakistani men who beat their wives in front of their children in America. There comes a day when you can’t hope your kids won’t remember…they will. No woman wants to leave but if the situation calls for it, now she can. What else will happen if the trend continues to oppress women? Logically speaking, where else will long term abuse take us? There will come a day when one side will say enough is enough. That’s where we are. Men stopped being men and became jail wardens.
Everything else you’ve highlighted is great but here’s the thing…men and women in Islam will never be equal. In order to keep the scales balanced, each party has to fulfill their obligations and grant the other their rights with respect and courtesy. I see women being raised to obey their husbands but men are never taught to respect their wives. Rather to control them. This thread was started to find out why a woman is on a can of shaving cream because a woman should not be seen or heard. She should only be dealt with when necessary and confined to her home because she was meant to stay indoors. This is not going to work in today’s society…it isn’t as you can see with the rise of divorces.
The courtesy and kindness should always go both ways…not just the woman working her butt off to earn a spot in a man’s home where she can spend the rest of her days. Reality is…many women do not have to do that anymore. It is no longer a need and if it is not a need…why would anyone stick it out in a bad marriage? Its important to recognize the shift in our culture because ignoring it is not productive. They why’s need answers if there will ever be solutions.
Forbidding a woman from speaking too much, wearing certain things, going out, talking too loud, seeing her parents, working, etc. Pakistani Islam is focused 100% on forbidding women from doing things…not encouraging her to realize her full potential.
I think women r pushed more to the extreme in the west, where all aspects of gherah and femininity has been scratched out of her in a way, that she no longer wants to act like a woman and looks down upon her role as a woman. Talk of equality..
Can men and women be equal other then in islam, as you claimed in islam they cannot be equal.
Whose telling anyone to follow the Pakistani Islam :s