The hypocrisy of liberals

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Re: The hypocrisy of liberals

@Reha

It actually does include luxury and any sort of house help she needs to feel free to do whatever she wishes. If a man can put restrictions on her, she can also put demands on him and they would be justified. Islam is more of a feminist religion than you want it to be, I realize that. But it is what it is. If you don’t like the rules, you don’t have to be Muslim but you can’t change or bend them because you’re a man and you don’t like hearing about women’s rights. Remember that.

Despite all of men’s best efforts, there IS a feminist movement. Women are more educated than they used to be. They ARE working professional jobs. The rate of divorce is rising because they’ve realized they don’t need to be pushed around anymore. The effects of the mullah brainwashing that tells you women are beneath you, are fading.
Its best men change with the times. As you said…men will act like women and women will act like men. We have no choice left when men are being paraded around to the highest bidding women and even after marriage cannot fulfill basic rights of a woman.

The divorce rate is rising and that is something to be proud of? Lol. I’ve taught almost every grade level. I’ve worked with preschoolers and adolescents and kids in between. Ask me how a divorce affects the psyche of children, the challenges they face as they shuffle their time between mom and dad, of being raised by a single parent. Last year I taught almost 50 students split into two groups; one was academically higher than the other. The students in the significantly higher group had something in common; their parents were married and many of the moms were housewives…but let’s put this latter point to the side. The weaker group of students also had something in common; they were being raised by a single parent, their home lives were fractured. I’m not interested in hearing about “exceptions” to the general observations I’ve just shared. Exceptions will always be there. This fired-up, “gung-ho” zeal about the climbing divorce rate is disturbing. It’s sad that both men and women struggle with compromise and patience and believe that every thing under the sun has to be asserted.

Yes, I’ve heard/read that a Muslim woman is not obligated to clean the house, or even nurse her child. She has the right to never lift a finger. But even when one has more than one right/option, there is one that is more “afzal.” For instance, Islam gives you the right to exact revenge that is equivalent to the harm done to you…however…to forgive is more afzal/superipor. The same religion which grants a wife the right to not lift a finger…also places great emphasis on the maintaining of rishtay. And rishtay are maintained through a mutual give and take, through mutual compromise, and picking and choosing battles…not through arrogance and asserting rights blindly. The Prophet SAWS was not one to demand anything of his wives; he even helped out with the domestic responsibilities. But if he SAWS did make a domestic request of one of his wives, I suspect that they wouldn’t fire back with..“Oh-yeah! I don’t have to do this and it’s my right.” The women of today are much “lesser” in status and character and iman and ibadat than Hazrat Khadija/Fatima/Aisha (RA)…but they’re gonna crow about all their “to-do” and “don’t have to” rights. And the men are no better.

A man does not have the “right” to rape/assault a women based on the way she is dressed. But WHY OH WHY did Allah THEN order women to dress modestly? Was it just for the heck of it? It’s because our Creator knows fully well that some men will use the aqal He has gifted them and exercise self-control…whereas others won’t. Allah knew that. Despite endowing us with intellect and a zameer, He knew that some men wouldn’t use them and will stoop to lower than animals. And so, He ordered women to take precautions as well. In another thread it was said that Islam has set a punishment only for the rapist and not the woman for the way she’s dressed. Ummm…just because there’s no specified “hadd” punishment designated for a scantily dressed woman…doesn’t mean that there is also no gunnah on her either for not following an order. Doesn’t mean it’s all shabaashi for her. That’s something to think about. Just because one person committed made a bigger transgression doesn’t necessarily mean that the other person is completely faultless. If you taunt someone and the other person punches you in the face, the latter is MORE wrong…but that doesn’t that the former’s actions or choices were 100% A-okay! “Feminism” might be all about men being the ones to exercise self-control whilst women get to do whatever…but Islam is about balance and BOTH genders being accountable and responsible. There is something wrong with us if we choose to accept only one ruling of Islam while we remain deliberately mum about the other. For instance, we want to scream it from the roof-tops that a rapist is more wrong, deserves the death penalty as per Islam. But then we want to stay mute when it comes to Allah’s orders on how a woman should dress and we want to downplay this…and we want to conveniently forget or cover up Allah’s rulings in this matter…because somehow some of us erroneously believe that doing otherwise is equivalent to defending the criminal and showing sympathy.

Making blanket statements about Pakistani men …and women living in Pakistan…and Muslim women in Anreeka is not going to resolve anything; it will only fuel and inflame.