is not a muslim and belongs to a sikh family. I love her dearly but no one in my family seems to be happy for me, and my family bashes on my all the time about my future. That my life after marriage will be ruined etc. Same thing shes going through in her family. I don’t want to hurt my parents or her parents by running away. But i want to come up with some sorta solution to the problem. We love each other alot! As a muslim should i worry about how the future would be or just take life as it comes n face all the challenges? Oh yeah she already reverted to islam but her parents dont know yet
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If she's accepted Islam with true faith, then there is nothing wrong with it. Does your family know about this? If yes, then I guess their main worry lies else where.
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Agreed....Only if she accepted Islam. You cannot marry her if even she says that she will accpet Islam after marriage. She has to accept Islam first. And if she did accept Islam with true faith as Gizzy mentioned, then you may marry her. Every person has his/her own right to marry person of their own choice (provided that you try ur utter-most to find a pious partner). The barakah of Allah only comes when we obey Him & obey His commandments.
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Agreed too. If she accepted Islam, you are good.
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hahahahah Guess what. When I was little, my mum wanted me to go ask my neighbour if she could borrow this film. I couldnt really speak urdu, and I asked her for “chapatti, cloth and house”. I didnt even tell her it was a film I was looking for. Thankfully, she understood. But it still makes me chuckle to think of the way she looked so blank 
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You have the right, to do your shadee......But make sure first that she has converted. You should convince her as much as you can.... You done great job appericiated:)
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Yeah, its very important before marriage that one converts to Islam- whether a guy or a girl you are marrying. They should invalidate cross-religious marriages
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ps do i know u :)
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let your family know that she has converted. that should alleviate their doubts. tell them that she is going to be your wife, and you will be responsible for her...and that this is your life...not theirs.
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If she accepted Islam...then you would have a better chance of having your family on your side.
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My cousin was in the exact same situation as you. The girl was sikh but had reverted to islam her parents weren't happy and nor were his. But my aunt realised that if she wanted to refrain from losing her son forever she would have to go along with it...... so the pair got married without the presence of the girls family. Surprisingly relatives (incluing my parents) were okay about it and we all went to the wedding.
The girl fitted in unbelievably well into the family and now my aunty and uncle have tears of happieness in their eyes whenever they look at her, they love her more than anyone else and take care of her and she is also very happy.
They had a baby girl in April and finally the girls parents came to see her and their grandchild and when they saw how happy she was they decided to forget what happend...... and now everyone gets on really well.
So basically, i think you should go for it if you love her and she loves you.
But one thing i will say is that don't be shocked if you have a daughter and she decides to marry a sikh guy afterall her grandparents will be sikh and all her cousins who she will socialise with will be sikh..... so what will stop her falling in love with a sikh guy? Remember what goes round comes round.
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If she's reverted to Islam then why do you say she's not a muslim?
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The girl fitted in unbelievably well into the family and now my aunty and uncle have tears of happieness in their eyes whenever they look at her, they love her more than anyone else and take care of her and she is also very happy.
They had a baby girl in April and finally the girls parents came to see her and their grandchild and when they saw how happy she was they decided to forget what happend...... and now everyone gets on really well.
So basically, i think you should go for it if you love her and she loves you.
But one thing i will say is that don't be shocked if you have a daughter and she decides to marry a sikh guy afterall her grandparents will be sikh and all her cousins who she will socialise with will be sikh..... so what will stop her falling in love with a sikh guy? Remember what goes round comes round.
excellently put...
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thank you so much. I would like to hear some more success stories from people.
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Yes they know and their only main worry is how the kids are going to be raised etc.. But we both came up with a islamic solution to that.
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I think she meant converted...
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reverted is the rite wrd
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but the girl was sikh b4..wasnt a muslim :-s
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lol,.......one of the beliefs of islam is that every1 is born a muslim,..........rite?
therefore if sum1 turns back 2 islam it shud be referred 2 as their revertion,.......
sorry, i just thought i'd xplain,..........hope u understand