The First Slap: Where to draw the line?

[NomiCA]

Re: The First Slap: Where to draw the line?

@redvelvet

**Nomi, you can claim to be openminded…you can say over and over again that you don’t have any set negative attitudes toward women..but I’m finding it tough to believe. Just look at the conclusions you jump to and the ideas you come up with. You say “threatening and ultimatums” in a negative way…you jump to these two options. Muzna’s right…that’s all you can come up with?
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A discussion is a way of being proactive. It need not contain threats and ultimatums…though if things don’t work…sometimes that has to be done. I suggested having a discussion several posts ago…but you ignored it and quickly came up with “threats and ultimatums.” Wow. And then you say that you’re open to acknowledging that women can post advice that is rational and not impuslive…yet when such advice is suggested…you ignore it as if it doesn’t exist…and come up with sarcastic conclusions. You’re mind is closed…there’s a consistency in that type of comments and attitude you project toward women and their thought process. It’s just not healthy outlook…not for a grown man. For middle school kids…sure. Not for an adult. And if you don’t adopt some flexibility in hearing opinions from women without shooting them down…it may be problematic for you later on when you do enter a relationship. It gets real old…this girls vs boys and boys are better attitude that should have been left behind in grade school or the playground.

wow…all that for me? i am flattered you care so much about me

but honestly…i don’t give a flying bleep …what makes you think i do???

… it would’ve been more useful if you concentrated your efforts on the topic at hand…instead of passing judgements on my attitude and relationship advice to me…

i could write an essay twice the size of yours pointing out what you come across as… would i do that?? nope…

this following quote…says what i think should be the way forward…

@CoughCough

I think he needs to be brought around to realise that what he is doing is wrong. And the fact that he slapped his wife only worsens his case here. If he is a good person, I believe he will apologise. When he apologises maybe calmly talk to him about the situation. Ask him whether he thinks that he should be gambling or not. If he says no then go on “I’m not here to remind you that you’re doing wrong, I’m here to help you get through this together :)”
If he says yes and slaps again, thats too much and maybe family needs to be involved