Re: The First Slap: Where to draw the line?
what you missed in your analysis are the following critical questions:
what in the world is he talking about?
rest i agree with you
You assumed that people would rush to suggest divorce. And YOU TOO made a hasty assumption about the advice given here. I’ve read through the posts…and they’ve proved you wrong. In your above quote…you do not specify whether you thought it would be mainly the women…or both genders that would advise divorce right away. BUT…IF you assumed this primarily about the Guppans…I hope the posts so far have humbled you a bit. No, I don’t mean this post in an aggressive way. I’m not having a go at you. I’m not in the least bit angry as I type this. I think that several Guppans on here try their best to post advice with the sincere intention of helping people…and they try to consider the various consequences while doing so.
There’s a hadith that states that if you hit someone…avoid the face…as one shouldn’t even slap an animal. And if you think about it…there something about slapping someone’s face (as opposed to other areas) that brings about a very strong sense of shame and anger. It’s humiliating…it sets you on fire…and if takes a lot of courage to not let that shame/fury/pain/ego from clouding your judgment. Still…look at the advice that been suggested her so far. It’s contrary to what you had expected. Again, something to consider.