^ how old is your baby now?
3 years old now! :)
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mashallah!!
Being one of the 5 brothers..and having only one sister who always kept crying.. I always wanted boys.. But when I saw my best friend playing with his daughter.. and then my nieces being so pretty and tender... and nakhry wali. I so want girls...
i want a girl first!!!!!! pink is my favorite color and girls have the cutest outfits!!
a lot of people say they wnat boys first so that they are able to take care of their younger sisters also a lot of parents feel that in their old age, its their sons that will be supporting them and helping them with their daughter's weddings financially so they want a boy first, it hink.
awww, even im like that Love pink colour and hope to have a first one girl InshAllah kher se....
Funny thing is what ever name i like is always a girls name... :)
but then the main thing is child should be healthy and active..... no matter what gender.. And ALLAH ki marzi sab se pehle....
mashallah!! Being one of the 5 brothers..and having only one sister who always kept crying.. I always wanted boys.. But when I saw my best friend playing with his daughter.. and then my nieces being so pretty and tender... and nakhry wali. I so want girls...
Inshallah. :)
I'm pregnant with my first baby and my in-laws have said to me that they want me to have a boy even though they only have boys in their family and no girls. Their other bahoo (my SIL) is also pregnant with her first baby. I found out last week that i'm having a girl and i felt a bit upset because i soooo wanted to please my in-laws.
A week later and i have had time to get use to the idea of having a girl and i am feeling a lot happier and looking forward to having a girl...actually i'm quite excited. My husband is over the moon that we are having a girl as he says he is bored with all the boys in the family and he keeps on referring to me and the bump as his girls.
I spoke to my mum about this and she said that people (including in-laws) will be a bit bothered when i have a girl but will forget about this in a day or so and that at the end of the day boy or girl it's my responsibility and i'm the one who will take care of it.
Funny thing is my MIL doesn't have any daughters so can't go shopping with them, can't ask advice on clothes, doesn't have anyone to tell her when her grey roots are showing etc... Whereas my mum has daughter (as well as a son) to do all these things with. I think without girls my mum would have been so lonely.
Anways i'm so happy to be having a girl...still haven't picked a name yet....
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^ I hope your inlaws will realize what magic a baby girl creates. They will adore her.
Everyone thinks we're having a boy. If it turns out to be a boy, I will be happy. If it's a girl I will see her as a true and precious gift.
I'm pregnant with my first baby and my in-laws have said to me that they want me to have a boy even though they only have boys in their family and no girls. Their other bahoo (my SIL) is also pregnant with her first baby. I found out last week that i'm having a girl and i felt a bit upset because i soooo wanted to please my in-laws.
A week later and i have had time to get use to the idea of having a girl and i am feeling a lot happier and looking forward to having a girl...actually i'm quite excited. My husband is over the moon that we are having a girl as he says he is bored with all the boys in the family and he keeps on referring to me and the bump as his girls.
I spoke to my mum about this and she said that people (including in-laws) will be a bit bothered when i have a girl but will forget about this in a day or so and that at the end of the day boy or girl it's my responsibility and i'm the one who will take care of it.
Funny thing is my MIL doesn't have any daughters so can't go shopping with them, can't ask advice on clothes, doesn't have anyone to tell her when her grey roots are showing etc... Whereas my mum has daughter (as well as a son) to do all these things with. I think without girls my mum would have been so lonely.
Anways i'm so happy to be having a girl...still haven't picked a name yet....
The thing that matters is what you and your hubby feels . You both are happy for having a girl then what others want doesn't really matter. and I am sure once everybody will see how happy you both are their views will change. Daughter is a blessing no one can avoid loving and adoring a girl. I have seen my husband loving his nieces more than his nephews although in my inlaws too there is a preference for boys. And plz dont tell anyone from your inlaws about the fact that u know u r having a girl , let the big day come :)
Whenever i talk to my wife about our upcoming bundle of joy, I refer to the baby as a girl. I dont know if its a subconscious reference or what, but I generally dont feel strongly in favor of any gender as such. I just pray for a healthy and happy baby. But I guess the unintentional reference to the baby as 'she' or 'her' is a sign of some sort:)
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A lot of my Mums friends that I treat like Aunties always make Du'a for me and say things like "May Allah tallah give you sons", or "May Allah tallah make your first born a Son". My hubbies takes the mickey and whenever I bring him a cup of tea or do someting for him, instead of saying thanks, in a joking way he says " Allah thuseh bacha diyeh, doh, doh, thein diyeh.." LOL..
I don't mind if I have a Boy or a Girl first. As long as he/she is healthy then I am blessed and grateful that Allah tallah has given us a child and made my Husband and me parents.
It's backwards to still think that Boys are valued more than Girls. Girls are a blessing and they bring blessings and barkat to a home/family.. Do boys do that? I think deep down, my in-laws would like a Grandson, but that’s not because they value Boys more. Either way, they would love our first child whether it was a Girl or a Boy.
Personally, I would love my first born to be Twins (of any gender). I’ve always wanted twins!! Triplets would be fantastic but I would more than have my hands full with twins and I think I could just about manage two. However many children Allah tallah gives my Husband and me, they would be loved so, so much regardless of what sex they were!
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I have no children, but my mother recently told me something that occurred when she had my younger brother. My paternal uncle's wife gave birth around the same time my mother did (one day later). It was their first child, and a girl. My grandmother (father's mother), told my mother that she could not tell my father's side of the family about the birth of my brother until my uncle got over the "disappointment," over having a girl.
My mother is still angry over being refused the chance to rejoice in the birth of her child as she felt was natural, all because someone was upset that their child was a girl.
Funny thing is, he and his wife had two more children-- all girls!
you create v interesting topics sara.
my first child was a girl. i was too thrilled as was my husband. we never cared for the gender nor thought such a thing was ever important. we only found out the gender because the doctor accidently said, 'your baby is very well. she is very active!" but we were glad we found out as we were over-joyed.
but i realised the backward society around me cared a lot. we were so proud to have a girl and before baby was born i told few ppl gender. one stupid woman said, "oh nevermind maybe next time you will have a boy!" grrr! i gave her a piece of my mind! i dont believe in staying quiet and taking the hurt. such stupid people need a beating! lol.
then one day i invited some bhabi's over for tea and one said to me, "why didn't you read this prayer to have a boy first. oh you should have read it. or if you had decided to name baby muhammad in beggining then you would have definately had a boy! next time read it to have a boy and this will make your husband proud!"
i was so shocked at her and her stupid mentality that how she could say such a stupid thing to me. i gave her a piece of my mind and she was shocked. needless to say i never invited her again nor did my other friends who stuck up for me.
i think pakistani women esp who live around me believe that girls grow up to fast and leave the home but the boys will always remain with the mum etc! silly thinking but i think for some having a boy means some sort of security for their future!
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ohh well i wish to have twins one boy n one girl
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^ that would be perfect too! instead of having to go through pregnancy and labour twice! lol!