you create v interesting topics sara.
my first child was a girl. i was too thrilled as was my husband. we never cared for the gender nor thought such a thing was ever important. we only found out the gender because the doctor accidently said, 'your baby is very well. she is very active!" but we were glad we found out as we were over-joyed.
but i realised the backward society around me cared a lot. we were so proud to have a girl and before baby was born i told few ppl gender. one stupid woman said, "oh nevermind maybe next time you will have a boy!" grrr! i gave her a piece of my mind! i dont believe in staying quiet and taking the hurt. such stupid people need a beating! lol.
then one day i invited some bhabi's over for tea and one said to me, "why didn't you read this prayer to have a boy first. oh you should have read it. or if you had decided to name baby muhammad in beggining then you would have definately had a boy! next time read it to have a boy and this will make your husband proud!"
i was so shocked at her and her stupid mentality that how she could say such a stupid thing to me. i gave her a piece of my mind and she was shocked. needless to say i never invited her again nor did my other friends who stuck up for me.
i think pakistani women esp who live around me believe that girls grow up to fast and leave the home but the boys will always remain with the mum etc! silly thinking but i think for some having a boy means some sort of security for their future!