Re: the ex, the girl, and the new guy
Reha, I don’t like thinking that the ex “can’t help” it. Agar larki aisa kahay…we’d chide her for it; we would think that it 's a bonga excuse. So why make such “excuses” for the guy? He can’t help it? He’s not a baby…he KNOWS what he’s doing…He made the choice to be a jerk.
But the girl has greater responsibility toward her well being. She cannot depend upon him to wake up or to do right by her. She has more control over her own life than she does with him…so it’s entirely up to her to get herself out.
We both concur that he’s being a jerk and she 's partly at fault and that she needs to quit depending on him and take control of her life. So why does this feel like a behas? I am not arguing with you. We differ in minor ways but the overall stance is the same.