Re: the ex, the girl, and the new guy
What made you conclude that I or anyone is implying the girl is helpless or should see herself purely as a victim? She’s not a victim cuz she’s partly at fault. I agreed with you that she has created a mental triangle. The only addition I made to your point was that she didn’t create this triangle out of thin air. The ex’s actions led her to question his motives..hence the mental triangle. Not all exes are the same, Reha…not all of them actively hinder you from finding happiness with someone else. He considers himself a “friend” of hers, but true friends don’t prevent each other in this way. You don’t need friends like that and she has to realize this. As you said, she’s not helpless. It really takes some inner will power to detach and push forward and it’s good that she’s starting to recognize that there are better guys out there. I have never said she was helpless so not sure why you asked that… nor am I encouraging such mentality…nor do I want to. I don’t condone the ex’s actions either. It’s just that out of the two of them and based on the info provided, I feel greater vexation with the ex than I do with her.