Is there a significant difference in MILs now? I’ve seen DILs and MILs behaving like friends nowadays, so diff from da time of our moms!!
Wats da sweetest thing u or someone u know hav done for ur MIL? And vice versa
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dont have a MIL yet,cant ever be a DIL.
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Yeah actually I didn't think it was so unusual because I don't know any different, but my mil and I get along very well. I always believe that you need to respect elders but then there's also a level of casual friendship to our relationship.
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^^ I agree with you saimanyc
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My MIL thinks i'm an adultress :(
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tat bad??? 
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SolarOceans 
I was not at good relations with my MIL till we moved out of joint family. Now we are good. Not that I didnt respect her, but there were things I couldnt understand myself.
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thanks guys
but it’s okay. She’s schizophrenic so . . . yeah. she thinks everyone is bad. If you went to her house, she’d think you were the cia coming to spy on her.
I feel really bad for her. She was really sweet when I first met her but back then she was doing better. . .
who knows, maybe she’ll get better one day God-Willing.
Then I can complain about her like a normal daughter in law 
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my mother-in-law is always very nice and caring toward me. she hates the term "saas" bc she feels it has bad associations.
she has very particular ways of doing things and she's a great cook and takes great care of a house, so sometimes i feel inadequate by comparison, but that's more me imposing that upon myself, i think.
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is she really schizo? i dont have a MIL but ive personally dealt with someone close to me that was. You just have to deal with it and always remind yourself…she is the way she is beacuse that was the will of Allah. Its no fault of her own. if you ever need to talk about it my pm is always open.
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I can't thank Allah enough for I've never seen evil types of MILs or DILs myself.....My MIL is a really sweet person n I've heard her saying the same about her MIL so can't say its evolution or anything. Ther can be some points where you have different opinions but disagreeing doesn't necessarily mean fighting etc. I can always disagree but with respect.
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i think it depends on how your MIL was treated by her MIL. if they didn't have the greatest of relationships, then somehow it kinda passes on. like she's taking it out on the DIL, now that she's the MIL..
make any sense?
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Here's a guy's perspective...
My mother in law is really easy to speak with.
Most importantly than anything else I love the
fact that she isn't the least bit judgmental. She has that
'motherly' aura around her that makes me
more comfortable with her than even with my
own mom. And not to forget she's a bank of
great advice. I just love the fact that the
space around her is so big....she has so much
room in her heart for her daughter that she
loves everything associated with that daughter.
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My mother in law is really easy to speak with. Most importantly than anything else I love the fact that she isn't the least bit judgmental. She has that 'motherly' aura around her that makes me more comfortable with her than even with my own mom. And not to forget she's a bank of great advice. I just love the fact that the space around her is so big....she has so much room in her heart for her daughter that she loves everything associated with that daughter.
aww so sweet. inshallah i hope that my husband (whenever i get one) will feel the same way about my mother.:)
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awwe, thanks.
yeah, she really is schizo. she was diagnosed around age thirty i think. She has her good days, her okay days, and her really bad days. . .
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was juz wondering abt da MILs out there
i guess its really a 2-way kinda thing… anyways most of us, MILs and DILs, are better educated and more informed abt dealing with ppl.
my MIL used to change my bed sheets when i first got married 
so embarassing!!! i was working late and all so tats y she did it i guess. will always appreciate her help.
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that’s kinda cute in a way..but yea a bit embarassing as well.
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I live with my MIL. She is nice but she can be annoying at times as well. You sorta have to adjust to living with a new family....and let me tell you, its not that easy.
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don't have a MIL yet.. but i am sure when i'll we'll get along very well. i agree with saimanyc. just like all the elders you need to respect them , and be patience. my mother had an amazing relationship with my grandma. its really not that hard, but you definately have to work on it and compromize a lil...
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my MIL and SIL are really really sweet... they call to talk to me :D and hubster just gets left behind..
My mums also pretty good to her DIL.. they get along like two school girls.. very cute relationship
b/w why doesnt anyone talk about FIL and BIL's? both mine are very sweet, Mashallah :)