in those love marriages, how much time it takes before love fizzles out and the reality of life strikes in? how much time does it take for a “love marriage” full of passion etc to finally become what every marriage is?
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What is every marriage?
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wat u r probably are calling average marriage is not actually marriage but a mere compromise. Marriage is supposed to loving relationship between two individuals who come together to find peace and happiness in each other. You sacrifice yourself to give happiness to the other person and in return get happiness. that is what marriage is supposed to be.
Love gets out of control before when people fall in. but thats just the beginning of a long journey. marriage is all about working on the relationship u start,start does matter, but its only as long as few months or maybe few years.
just like any other thing u do. Unless you have the "will to live together" you dont have much to run for.
Finally people take love for granted when it isnt. they think only their love can go all along. but its unfortunately not like that.. you have to actually work on the relationship.
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Marriage never works. Its proven!
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Mc you are not even married yet 
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I think the cause of failure in many marriages these days is the expectation that it will fail. Jeez.
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^^^
I agree. Self-fulfilling prophecy. When things start to go bad it should be seen as a warning sign not 'Oh I knew this would happen'.
Aslong as both parties make it work, give attention, respect love FROM BOTH SIDES, all will be well. Things go wrong when it becomes one-sided.
hahah lol love your question. I can understand what you mean.
I think once the wife starts doing the cooking, dishes, full time job, giving birth to baby, cleaning up the house - she realizes there is not much love left cause she is a maid.
The guy on the other hand is tired of her demands to buy things, vacations, demands to help around with diapers and other chores - so he too fizzles out of love
now you see- they are both out of love and are looking more like “working in arrangements”
hahahahhahahahahahah
(sorry this was just time pass - didn’t put any thoughts to it!) 
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I have a friend, got married to her cousin after 9 yrs of love affair ( its desi love affair so mind it nothing physical here) . They are still in love after three yrs of marraige and they have a son. I spoke to her not very long back and she said laughingly, oh H is even more sweeter than ever ......
So not necessarily love will end after marriage.
^now you are getting serious here! 
lol
in that case - i think even arranged marriage love does not “end” -
some relationships are risky and are simply based on lust - these love marriages fail
I have a friend, got married to her cousin after 9 yrs of love affair ( its desi love affair so mind it nothing physical here) . They are still in love after three yrs of marraige and they have a son. I spoke to her not very long back and she said laughingly, oh H is even more sweeter than ever ......
So not necessarily love will end after marriage.
That was a breath of fresh air! Nice to hear something positive amidst all the negativity.
I think the cause of failure in many marriages these days is the expectation that it will fail. Jeez.
very true, I have seen it too often and mostly coming from girls
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I think that is just a self defense mechanism. I doubt many people truly enter such a loaded legal and social contract with a real expectation of failure.
It ends when he begins to leave a trail of dirty socks, prefers the remote over you..
I think it ends when you expect too much and give too little, or when feelings aren't reciprocated or appreciated.
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I think its better to fall in love with your spouse AFTER marriage. Of course there should be some compatability between the guy and gal before they decide to get married.
Love marriages have statistically been proven to fail alot more than arranged marriages.
The culprit being expectations. NJMasti put it very right !!
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the more you expect of the other person in any kind of relationship the more chances you have to see it ruined.
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**aamaal bin-niyaat [deed based on intention] so u u have purity of intention, nerve of steel to carry it out and a throbbing heart to feel the love...u are ok in marriage
but, getting together is the biggest investment u have ever made in ur lifeso work ur hardest to make it profitable in terms of good family and a good life :)**
Love marriages have statistically been proven to fail alot more than arranged marriages. The culprit being expectations. NJMasti put it very right !!
This is misleading. Correlation does not equal causation. Arranged marriages are more likely to take place in much more traditional societies and families with much harsher divorce taboos and stricter patriarchal structures where women have few exit options in terms of supporting themselves, custody of kids, etc. What keeps people together in an arranged marriage is not always a happy marriage---it's often the much higher price of divorce. There's also the question of local laws and how difficult divorce may be in certain places and the correlation with local practice of love/arranged marriage.
Also, if you want to bring statistics into the picture, the country with the highest divorce rate is the Maldives---and arranged marriage is still fairly widespread there. The only two Muslim countries on the list of the ten with the lowest divorce rates are Libya and Turkey----and arranged marriage as practiced in Pakistan is definitely not the norm in Turkey, although arranged and semi-arranged cousin marriages are still the norm in Libya. On the other hand, arranged marriage is much less common in many Muslim countries other than Pakistan----Syria, Morocco, Palestine, Indonesia, etc.---yet these countries still retain relatively low divorce rates.
So love vs. arranged may be a cultural correlation in some countries, but it's clearly not a causal relationship.
Expectations are clearly important in any marriage. An arranged marriage in which there's an unrealistic expectation that one family is going to provide endless wealth and social connections for the other is just as doomed to conflict/disappointment as a love marriage where the couple have some bollywood-esque thought that every day they'll be singing and dancing together in the kitchen interspersed with picnics in the Swiss Alps.
My marriage was a love marriage and the love hasn't 'fizzled', nor will it. That's because the love between my husband and I is based on a realistic idea of the other's strengths and weaknesses, respect for differences, and a set of common goals for life that we determined in advance of our marriage. All of these things are important for lasting love but can be and often are neglected by people in both love and arranged marriages in favor of other sorts of social glue----family expectations, kids, etc.--in which case you get either divorce or people tolerating an unhappy situation in order to satisfy other people.
I'll keep my love marriage. :)
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it all depends on each person ability to invest in the time and effort to make the marriage work, communication is the key, by communicating by praising and critiicising one can take steps to improve their marriage.
^ i agree.
whether theres love before the marriage or after, the only way it will last is by working at the marriage, TOGETHER.