Re: the end of love
hmmmmm. This will be my 12th year of marriage and I have to say that the day-to-day grind really does wear us out. BUT...we still find time to fan the flames and have a good ole romp at fairly regular intervals. So, the physical side is taken care of. As far as the day-to-day, it takes work for sure but dedication and respect for each other keeps the love light burning. Our love marriage is truly a match made in heaven and I never fail to be thankful for the man I married.
In other words, quit bollywooding. 
This is misleading. Correlation does not equal causation. Arranged marriages are more likely to take place in much more traditional societies and families with much harsher divorce taboos and stricter patriarchal structures where women have few exit options in terms of supporting themselves, custody of kids, etc. What keeps people together in an arranged marriage is not always a happy marriage---it's often the much higher price of divorce. There's also the question of local laws and how difficult divorce may be in certain places and the correlation with local practice of love/arranged marriage.
Also, if you want to bring statistics into the picture, the country with the highest divorce rate is the Maldives---and arranged marriage is still fairly widespread there. The only two Muslim countries on the list of the ten with the lowest divorce rates are Libya and Turkey----and arranged marriage as practiced in Pakistan is definitely not the norm in Turkey, although arranged and semi-arranged cousin marriages are still the norm in Libya. On the other hand, arranged marriage is much less common in many Muslim countries other than Pakistan----Syria, Morocco, Palestine, Indonesia, etc.---yet these countries still retain relatively low divorce rates.
So love vs. arranged may be a cultural correlation in some countries, but it's clearly not a causal relationship.
Expectations are clearly important in any marriage. An arranged marriage in which there's an unrealistic expectation that one family is going to provide endless wealth and social connections for the other is just as doomed to conflict/disappointment as a love marriage where the couple have some bollywood-esque thought that every day they'll be singing and dancing together in the kitchen interspersed with picnics in the Swiss Alps.
My marriage was a love marriage and the love hasn't 'fizzled', nor will it. That's because the love between my husband and I is based on a realistic idea of the other's strengths and weaknesses, respect for differences, and a set of common goals for life that we determined in advance of our marriage. All of these things are important for lasting love but can be and often are neglected by people in both love and arranged marriages in favor of other sorts of social glue----family expectations, kids, etc.--in which case you get either divorce or people tolerating an unhappy situation in order to satisfy other people.
I'll keep my love marriage. :)
This is the best answer I have ever read about arranged vs. love marriage. AWESOME
Re: the end of love
marriage fails and love starts to fade away when you think you're life will be like bollywood/hollywood movies. There is so much sacrifice in marriage and compromise is the most important thing.
Treating each other with respect, doing spontaneous nice things keeps the fire burning. Once it becomes too routine, change is sought, arguments happen and marriage goes downhill.
Re: the end of love
Because Arranged Love Maraige system not exist in the westrn societyy and most commonlyyy its a fling kinda systemm .. the mind trap has been made in the the society that everyday shud be like gurl frend boy frend wala system lovely dovelyy .. not that i disagree .. its too muchh .. and therefore the system of maraige is rare … and as a resultt .. the western society has drilled one more thing in to ppls mind is tat hw can you survive with one person all your life .. you need change .. obama ka motto ki tareh .. wee need a change .. so basically .. its waht Niksik and CE agree on that people want the concept of maraige to fail ..so they can b free ..
Wow, brilliant post.
Just wanted to add another point to what snowy_winter believes, that arranged marriages have lower rates of ‘failure’ than love marriages. Has he heard about the divorce rates in Saudi Arabia where the majority are also arranged??
‘**Given the enormous rise in the divorce rate in the Kingdom — the second-highest in the world **— the head of Jeddah’s marriage court, Sheikh Saleh Ahmad Habad, has called for urgent steps to address the issue.’
More here: Alarming Divorce Rate ‘Must Be Addressed Urgently’
I think its better to fall in love with your spouse AFTER marriage. Of course there should be some compatability between the guy and gal before they decide to get married.
Love marriages have statistically been proven to fail alot more than arranged marriages. The culprit being expectations. NJMasti put it very right !!
People don't choose when or who they fall in love with, it's not like flicking a light switch. That's why in Islam we aren't held accountable for our feelings (no matter how bad or wrong they might be), only on our resulting actions..
Re: the end of love
In the West, they say that love is a madness that ends with marriage. But in Islam, we say that love is a madness that only begins after marriage. This is true and lasting love that is based on good and fulfillment at the level of heart, mind, body, and soul.
In the West, they say that love is a madness that ends with marriage. But in Islam, we say that love is a madness that only begins after marriage. This is true and lasting love that is based on good and fulfillment at the level of heart, mind, body, and soul.
Wow that is so beautiful... that makes so much sense.