I really dont know much about your socialization circle but I have stayed for years in CA (Orange County), NC (Raleigh, Charlotte), VA (Richmond) and DC and I have met quite educated Desi guys. From lawyers to Drs, from Software Engineers to IT Directors and from research fellows to PHDs.
Its about time that you change your circle even location. May be you are looking at wrong places? (hint: mostly educated and career oriented guys are not party freaks :) )
Top places to look for Educated Desi guys are
- Orange County (Tustin, Tustin Ranch, Irvine, Anaheim and around)
- Bay Area (San Fransiscon Oakland, San Jose)
- RTP (Research Triangle Park - Raleigh/Cary)
- DC
- Charlotte
- Manhattan (and suburbs)
- Detroit
and many more
More and more people I talk to in different American cities, the same response I get. Most of the guys in the Pakistani community here are not very educated, are not ambitious, are waiting to inherit their dad's gas station or small business, and run it as their own.
More and more girls I meet, I see we're all going for post-grad education, we're all getting degrees. Some for the purpose of fetching better rishtas. Some for the purpose of God forbid actually working.
I'm trying to look for a city in America where most of the guys are in a more professional path - they 're educated, they're hard working, they're getting schooled well.
Is it just me, or is the education gap between males and females increasing and leading to a social crisis possibly in the future where good educated American-raised Pakistani women will just continue having trouble finding good spouses because all the uneducated boys are tending to not take these ambitious women on as their wives?
If I'm wrong, I'll be so happy if you can direct me to a city, where this trend is not the populat one amongst the males. Because I need to pack my bags and get the heck out of this place, because that's all I see.