Re: The Education Gap
All of my life I have see and heard of girls AND guy's that have accomplished so much and gotten extremely educated. This would be upstate New York I am talking about. My parents would always tell us about so and so kids that are doing so and so. As I got older, I became amazed at how motivated our communities are in general in regards to education. I would seriously be extremely hard pressed to find a Pakistani guy that was not highly educated. It's just that sorts of communities I guess here. Not only do the parents feel pressure for their children to do well... but the kids do too .... you dont want to be the loser kid while everyone around you is become doctors, getting phDs, MBA's, etc.
Since then - I have moved to Massachusetts and that whole thing is even to a MORE extreme here I feel. Every single Pakistani I come across is so accomplished and motivated. They might have other shady characteristics I am not a fan off... but everyone is really educated. It's never been an issue in my entire life of seeing a trend where the girls are getting more educated than the guys. I have definitely seen guys married to girls who are LESS educated than they are. But not vice versa...because that is hard to find. Either a girl marries to marry a guy who is on her "educational level" or he is more educated. This is only my experience based on WHERE I have lived. I am not generalizing the entire United States of America.
But I also think nothing is wrong with a guy marrying a girl who is more educated than her. Why should he care if he loves and respects her? He should be proud of her and her accomplishments. As long as there is mutual love, respect, and understanding in the relationship ...and its a "good match" in general in all other ways... then it really shouldn't matter. My humble opinion......