Ok i am sure most of you are familiar with this term and unfortunately come across such people quite often. Oh well maybe we have such people within our families and part of that jahilness has rubbed on us too?!
Everytime I hear people complaining about why this or that is part of our culture and how it sucks big time, i want to ask these people why can’t they stand against it if it really bothers them so much?! We have every tom, dick and harry pointing out flaws of the gov’t, education system, environment, society, blah blah you name it they would have a criticizing opinion on it. But how many are ready to move their ass and actually try and make an effort regarding correction of any of these things?. Or we are waiting for somebody else to take the initiative and do the dirty work for us :halo:.
Just today i met this “educated” aunty who started kinda arguing with me when i showed my shock at this rishta for a 27-28 yr old girl. She is from abroad and came back for marriage and wants to settle here. But she is having trouble finding a suitable rishta especially since she is shia and somehow we dont have many of shias here or so i figured out. Hmm. Anyways i have never met this girl but my maid told me about her and how she feels very lonely because she is lonely here no friends or anyone to confide in. So khair i told my maid that next time you meet her tell her she can come over my place anytime and all that. Anyways the maid told me this rishta they saw for her the guy is 40:khums: yrs old bald guy and no Salman Khan that you can ignore the age factor . On a serious note, i found that very absurd because its more than a decade difference between the two. There are bound to be so much of difference in the thinking and way of life. So i showed my disgust to the maid at this rishta and this aunty was like come’on beta a 40 years old is not old nowadays and i was like wtf? She goes see the girl is old now and i couldnt trust my ears at this that here this lady is calling a 27-28 yrs old “old” but a 40+ guy is young. I mean what the **** is wrong with these people. She goes its fine guys nowadays take good care of theirself and dont look bad at that age. But i told her its nt abt looking good or bad, its like two people living at diff times n how wl they make it wrk? I know it works for some people but i dnt think people should be taking such chances esp in an arranged setup. Anyways after some good argument, this aunty kinda gave in and said yah maybe its a bit too much difference but oh well people still go for it. And i was like uh huh most people nowadays have become cautious about these things and it doesnt work anymore like that. Earlier yes the girl’s family would not care much abt the guy’s age or even appearance but now they do. And same for the guy’s family earlier it use to be only about her looks but now they want someone who is educated and not brain dead.
im disturbed that you think she should be a match for 40 year old shirtless bimbo salman khan..
bald 40 year olds may make good husbands and dads. i don’t know why you are dismissing him summarily.. maybe he has a big dil, you knowz.. who’s the jahil here?
Ok, so should i directed a 40 yrs old aunty your way? believe me she has a heart of gold and is dying to mother your kids and be a perfect housewife :halo:. What say?
It is a big difference. But not a big deal. It is very very common in desi marriages. Even in our generation. Ask around.
just because something is common doesnt make it right, or does it? we have so much of nonsense happening around "commonly" so do we go follow that too?.
just because something is common doesnt make it right, or does it? we have so much of nonsense happening around "commonly" so do we go follow that too?.
I couldn't care less about the right and wrong age of your partner theories.... they should be the same age? Where does it say that? The girl can't be older? Where does it say that? The boy can't be older? Where does it say that?
Jahil panna is when an 8 yr old child is married off to a 70 yr old buddha for the sake of a bit of land. Not when a ~30 yr old girl happily agrees to marry a ~40 yr old man and vice versa.
I couldn't care less about the right and wrong age of your partner theories.... they should be the same age? Where does it say that? The girl can't be older? Where does it say that? The boy can't be older? Where does it say that?
Jahil panna is when an 8 yr old child is married off to a 70 yr old buddha for the sake of a bit of land. Not when a ~30 yr old girl happily agrees to marry a ~40 yr old man and vice versa.
they can be older bt within an acceptable range. Anyways each to their own, i never said it was wrong to marry someone that much older but if thats the only option left for u than thats wrong.
I think its wrong if the 27/28 year old is being forced to marry a 40+ guy as a last resort. In an arranged situation it's hard to imagine there would be some compatibility there.
. On a serious note, i found that very absurd because its more than a decade difference between the two. There are bound to be so much of difference in the thinking and way of life. So i showed my disgust to the maid at this rishta and this aunty was like come’on beta a 40 years old is not old nowadays and i was like wtf? She goes see the girl is old now and i couldnt trust my ears at this that here this lady is calling a 27-28 yrs old “old” but a 40+ guy is young. I mean what the **** is wrong with these people. She goes its fine guys nowadays take good care of theirself and dont look bad at that age. But i told her its nt abt looking good or bad, its like two people living at diff times n how wl they make it wrk? I know it works for some people but i dnt think people should be taking such chances esp in an arranged setup. Anyways after some good argument, this aunty kinda gave in and said yah maybe its a bit too much difference but oh well people still go for it. And i was like uh huh most people nowadays have become cautious about these things and it doesnt work anymore like that. Earlier yes the girl’s family would not care much abt the guy’s age or even appearance but now they do. And same for the guy’s family earlier it use to be only about her looks but now they want someone who is educated and not brain dead.
