**The darker the girl the less beautiful?
** **[** ** I was recently overjoyed when my cousin gave birth to a healthy baby girl. I rang my uncle to offer my congratulations regarding the birth of his grand-daughter and asked what she was like. His answer.... with a notable detection of pride..... was that she was fair. I can only assume that the reason for this was his sincere belief that being fair was a positive virtue for his grand-daughter in this world. Perhaps i could even understand his way of thinking as he did afterall come from a generation where such things were valued. Perhaps as a man with two daughters himself he was merely looking forward in time from the perspective of a father faced with the task of marrying his daughter.....that it would be easier.
On that note what does the word “dark” mean to you? I mean, honestly? When i think of dark i think of my mothers beautiful almost velvet-like skin. How they seem so exotic and exciting. Or how the darker skins glow on a lovely summer day…those accompanying big expressive eyes that seem to tell a story of their own.
i guess the difference between me and many others is that i love and am comfortable in my skin. Oh insecurities yes but not about my skin colour. If so then you may ask why i feel so strongly as to submit an article about this topic on your site? I guess that this is aimed not so much at the dark-skin haters amongst us…as far as i am concerned everyone is free to their own choice and i feel no need to convince them. Afterall there is something for everybody…
No. Those who love me will follow me. And not just because of the colour of my skin. However skin colour…like eyes, hair etc is an important component of ones body. It is our wrapping paper. And there are girls and boys out there who have a negative self-image because of their skin colour…and those who dont may still encounter prejudice in some aspect of their life such as marriage.
My advice? Life is unfair. But there are far worse injustices in the world than being misunderstood or misjudged because of the way you look. And learning to live and love an aspect of yourself that you know is a cause of conflict will ultimately make you stronger and more appreciative of who you are.
I myself have not entered the “marriage market” yet as i am far too busy with my second degree. Though i have come into contact with people including annoying girls who feel the need to voice their disturbingly biased views on beauty and “what men want”. Even close friends can be a source of alarming views. However each to his/her own.
However when it does come to seeking a husband, i would rather that people who are fortunate enough to cast an eye on my photo and do not like the colour of what they see politely give it back and dont waste my time. Though i guess that, ultimately, what i am really hoping for…is that my husband-to-be will see me and feel the same tinge of admiration and awe that i feel when i see a person of darker shade. As i personally find that which is less obvious more engaging.
As a muslim i know that ultimately even if every other human-being does not share my love of my skin, i am not alone. For God knows the reason and the beauty of every creed. And in the hereafter at least there will be no comparison between the darkest girl and the fairest girl.
Totally agree …
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