The career woman bride

[Sehrysh]

Re: The career woman bride

@NomiCA

on a serious note…what would it take a woman to switch??

And if she doesn’t switch at the right time ( believed to be right time by her husband with all his sincerety)… then would she say no just because she was being told to do it??

Here’s another freebie: A lot of women have been raised to be obedient and defer to their parents and families in their life choices, including the choice of who to marry. These same women were told by their parents, once you are married, you will be in control of your own future. The conflict arises when they feel that that long yearned for control over their life choices has been taken from them even before they’ve enjoyed it. Their career ambitions and the desire to hold onto their career becomes contentious because for many it is the only element of their life that they had any control over without parental interference in their unmarried lives. So they want to make any choices connected their career.

Now guys, put yourself in her shoes for just a minute. Think about a specific example when you were TOLD to do something, including by a loved one who you trust. Not to say that you didn’t do what you were told, but were you happy or was there an element of resentment that made you drag your feet and delay something you would have done anyway?

@Wane

Fair enough but the way women here are setting it up for themselves is to be able to make the choice whenever they want, of their own free will, without any conditions, and not being told what to do.

Men should also have the same option, and the responsibility to be bread earners shouldn’t fall on their shoulders by default.

^ Funny enough, I once took a gender studies class that had me ponder that very question. Yes, if women demand equity and equality, then why are they unwilling to extend the same right/privilege/expectation to men? Why is a man expected to be the sole breadearner for the family, isn’t he entitled to rest or not work if that is his choice? I don’t have an answer other than, if he wants to deviate from societal norms (as he is entitled to do), then he too should discuss it within the family unit so that the decision is mutual.

Moral of the story, a couple between them need to discuss these sorts of decisions and arrive at a mutual decision. No one party should dictate or command the other and the objective should not be to “win” an argument or debate or choice. Rather, the objective should be that there are no “losers” in the outcome.