The career woman bride

[Niksik]

Re: The career woman bride

@Jaanwar

Mothers going ‘rishta shopping’ for their sons with their own set of criteria doesn’t happen in all cases. In majority cases, mothers ask for their sons’ preferences and search accordingly. And when a mother actually states her preferences and limitations i.e. wanting a homemaker instead of a career woman to a lady’s family BEFORE going ahead with the meetings and all, it is considered as being rude and jaahil. But when these ladies want ideal rishtay, a well educated tall handsome bloke who is making good moeney, with absolute freedom to choose your own lifestyle without any interference from the man whatsoever, and a life sans inlaws right at your doorstep, in a silver platter, that is considered your inherent god given right.

Most normal moms do that yes…they keep their son’s interests in mind when looking for brides. However, the older I’m getting, and the more people I am meeting I am seeing that many moms become extremly selfish when bride shopping and look for what works for them rather than their sons. They look for girls who will be easily “mouldable,” one who can dedicate their lives “serving” the entire family, etc…I’m not saying any of this is wrong, but come their daughter’s turn, they look for inlaws that are far far away with the least possible interaction. Please don’t say this isn’t true as I have seen this within my own family as well.

Yes of course there are many women who like to get into marriages with complete independence from in laws. They get stressed at any little non-issue and raise their guards unncessarily.