The Birds and the Bees

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Age 12, coming back home by bus from final exams for class 7.

My buddy: Yaar i just found out bachay kesay peda hotay hain!
Me: Kesay?
My buddy: [proceeds to tell details]
Me: :-OOOOOO

I was in denial for a long long time. I convinced myself only bad people’s kids are born that way.

What was your reaction when you found out how babies are manufactured?

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I was 8 years old and our school teacher told us. I was blown away and didn't really understand everything at that point.

I told my cousins who were around age 6-10, of what I had learned. My girl cousin told my mom what I had told them, my mom gave me a severe beating, punches kicks and everything.

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LOL@ “only bad people’s kids are born that way” :omg:

When I found out, I was so angry and disgusted by my parents. I think I cried for the first few days. And then I went on to tell all my friends who had a similar reaction of disgust. I was in grade 4, ahem. :@:

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:confused: Um, okay there…

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LOL I thought it was some weird thing non-Muslims did because they thought it would give them children. I didn't believe Muslims did such a thing :O

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I honestly thought you could have babies just by kissing until I was 11. I didnt know how it actually happened, until then, when they teach you in health class in school. At first I didnt believe it, because I was so sure that it happened by kissing, and I always thought sex was haram and not allowed in Islam, so it totally confused me. But I was too shy to ask anyone else, so I let it go. Then when I was 12, I was doing a project on AIDS, and my youngest Popoh (who is only about 12 years older than me) was helping me. So I asked her and she confirmed it for me.

Awkward moment - last year, my 12 year old cousin asked me about how babies were born, and if it was true that you had to have intercourse to have a baby. At first I got weirded out, but then I thought, if I dont tell her, I know her parents are not going to. Its better that she heard the truth from me, rather than whatever the kids in her class were going to tell her. She kept insisting that it was haram to do that in Islam, and I had to have a whole talk with her about marriage, Islam and babies.

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Yikes If a younger kid asked me something like that, I just think I'd be too weirded out. I might just run away.

I will never have that conversation with my kid, someone else can do it.

My parents never told me and I'm glad they didn't I might have been scarred for life.

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^If you don't then they'll end up learning about some distorted version of it via friends, that may be more harmful than learning it from your parent and having to face that awkwardness in the moment. My parents, although very traditional and old-school in many ways, made sure all our questions were answered.

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I know but it's just too gross and weird.

I think what I'll do is that when my kid gets close to puberty, just have them have a nice chat with your local family doctor. I'm sure most doctors would have no problem explaining the birds and the bees.

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I always wondered why children are born only after you get married; I thought once women attain a certain age, they get pregnant.

7th grade was a very learning/enlightening phase for me. Learned pretty much everything about the circuitry and functioning of women, and the whole baby making process. And that initial sickening/disappointing realization - damn man.. my parents... them too?

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i learned in 8th grade n confirmed wth a cousn who was 1 year older than me n dont want 2 face my parents ewwwww it took time 2 face my parents n my parents were worried y i m not talking 2 them

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8th grade i think… i was like…whaaa!!! and my friend told me…''we also came that way" :rotfl:

PS… what might be the ‘wrong and twisted’ that everyone is afraid of?

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Ditto

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I was told by parents when I asked the question, at the age of 5, how I came, my dad told me a remarkable level of truth. He said, that Allah put a small part of him into my mums tummy and it grew like flower, then they had to cut open the tummy in hospital to take me out. This was very satisfying as an answer.

I think I asked, how Allah put a part of him in my mum, and he said that I would not understand and that when I grew up I would understand.

When I saw wildlife programmes of animals birthing and copulating, I made the connection myself by the age of 7 or 8. I realised the tummy is not cut open, but then later realised that sometimes cutting open is necessary. :)

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I was 10 or 12 when me and a couple friends I grew up with decided to go hunt for the truth. We weren't really ever told of it straight forward as every person we'd go ask would twist and turn the whole tale. So in the end we decided to go grab a magazine that said "Labor" something on the front cover.

Reaction? We all cried together.

I cried more when I got home and decided to further solidify the credibility of what my eyes saw in the book, I discussed it with maa and all she did was show parts of her tummy for me to go burst out crying again. Poor kid. :(

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In 4th grade (when Titanic came out) all the girls in class were talking about Leo/Kate's "car scene" and how it was weird that kate didn't get pregnant (because if you kiss and lay on top of each other = pregnancy). some "knowledgeable" girl said that it was because you have to engage in intercourse a certain number of times. "they only did it 25 times, and EVERYONE knows you can't actually get pregnant until the 27th"...made sense to me at the time. lol. I don't even know when I learned the truth....

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I used to see pictures from my father’s Anatomy books … Then in 8th Grade - my Bengali maid’s son told me about the real thingy , he was couple of years elder then me ..

In that same year - I watched my very first porn :smiley: Good’old VCR days and Dolly video centre :hinna:

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I grew up in a house with 5 women, I already knew how it kinda worked, (cos my mum had a complicated birth with me) only diff was I thought everyone had a caesarian, not just me. I just thought when the time came, you cut the tummy and a baby came out.

Sounds gory when I write it down :(

Hanyways, I found out properly at school around ages 10 or 11 i think. We had to watch a real life birth. I've been traumatised ever since :(

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You all have been fooled and brainwashed by goray! This is propaganda, don’t believe it!!!

LIES! ALL LIES! :mad:

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lol. I still remember when my khala got married & on her walima day i asked her that "where is your baby"lol . I always thought people get babies immediatelyafter their marriage.