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Let me correct that ...
"the available girls get married quickly" ...
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Let me correct that ...
"the available girls get married quickly" ...
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Hain?? Isn’t that always the case? When do the unavailable get married? ![]()
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^ Exactly ...
Think about it ...
Unwritten rule ... men like to be a few years older than their wives to be ... between 8 years to 2 years younger
Majority of world-wise men tend to be ready for marriage at 27 to 32 years
This means they will be looking for women between the ages of 19 to 30 ... The turning point for men will be age 29 and the women will be less in demand for their suitable age range ... this means the maximum chance for women to be married is between the ages of 21 to 24 ...
If a girl is available to be married from when she is 21 she has given herself 4 years of maximum uptake
If a girl makes herself available from 22 she has limited that by one year, 23, then by another and 24 by another
So if she decides to be available when she is 25, then she has reduced her chances with the men of her own calibre and she would have to settle for men of lower calibre - this then results in the girl resisting marriage for not finding a suitable man ... Then the woes begin.
So when a girl reaches 25, or 26 or 27 and has no particular standard for a man, but she was not available before then, then - she remains just as available and hence increases her chance for a quick marriage. But by waiting that long she needs to be aware that the good men will be taken and she needs to be "available" for someone who does not tick all her boxes. If she follows this advice then she can get married quickly even at the age of 28 or 30 years ... the problem in practice is this:
The longer the girl waits, and she believes that she is more desirable for marriage for waiting, especially if she is waiting for the purpose of building a career or continuing education. If she holds off marriage or her parents resist ... then she will find it harder and hence it will take longer to get married ...
I've seen it work in practice ... there are plenty of 40 years old single men who took a long time to get ready for marriage either because they were not so successful or because they had bad social skills and the girls who have no lower bar for men will get married very quickly to such men ...
So the answer is not age - although it is related - the answer is "availability" - be available for your target audience and you will get married ... But the ruder awakening for most girls is to realise what their target audience is ... if they believe it to be different from reality based on some "fantasy" notion that they are right for that type of man ... then they have made themselves unavailable for their target audience and available for a mostly disinterested group ... who are seeking out younger girls.
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Don't care what people say. They are not always right.
Not necessarily.
Of course not necessary but most of the time...
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The pretty girls clause is true. There was massive debate in school about times have changed and we don't live in the June austen zamana anymore. I pointed out a couple of the prettiest girls and said these girls will get married first. That's what happened. The first three marriages from our batch were those girls.
Doesn't mean best = prettiest but in the rishta market it is.
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Not sure about 'the best ones', but agree with 'the pretty ones' getting married early. Its like saying rishtas of 'handsome men' are more likely to be accepted earlier.
Whether handsome men turn out to be the best husbands or not is a separate debate but I mean handsome men and pretty girls are generally considered more desirable in our society.
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Getting married quickly should not be counted as getting married early ... Quickly means the time it takes to get married after one makes themselves available.
So if an 18 year old makes herself available - and gets married by 21 years of age she has gotten married JUST AS QUICKLY as a girl who makes herself available for marriage at 23 years of age but gets married at 26 years ... because both took 3 years to get married.
Some beautiful girls are available early and some not ... it depends ... but what is for sure is that the earlier one makes herself available the quicker it will be for her to get married because she ticks one of the boxes of her own target audience.
By delaying her availability her preferred target will rule her out (because she is too old for them) and she will have to settle for choice B in the men ... The girls who delay and remain adamant for Choice A men are the ones who take longer to get married.
In ka asal naam Abdul hai shaayad
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^ Or Shabbir. Koi dekhe na dekhe Shabbir to dekhe ga.
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t'is all down to destiny no?
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Agree..
I think people who say this don’t take into account the fact that some girls nowadays prefer to wait..
The whole “best/prettiest girls get married quickly” thing obviously happens when people prioritise marriage over everything else.. My brother made the comment to my Mum when she was suggesting girls in their late twenties/thirtyish for him.. Some of them are gorgeous and educated (inc one who turned him down when he was looking the first time round).. He said something along the lines of “if they’re that great how come they’re still unmarried?”
Erm because not everyone’s life revolves around trying to find a husband as quickly as possible..
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No tomatoes or rotten eggs lol..
I know quite a few parents back home who get their daughters engaged or nikkahfied early to stop them finding someone they might not approve of, or if they already had someone to stop others gossiping.. Obviously very attractive girls get more proposals but the thinking behind the statement I mentioned doesn’t take into the account that some might want to say “no”..
Do people think the “best” or most attractive guys get married quickly as well ![]()
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Wow!!! I don't know but perhaps it's in Pakistan that the "pretty" one get engaged or married fast. And hey what defines "best"? I know so many great girls who are 27-30 years old and not married. They're pursuing their masters, pious but just not married yet. I wouldn't say they're amazingly beautiful, but if I were a guy I rather go for them than a beautiful 18-20 year old with no degree or gd education. (Sorry!) however, perhaps guys prefer beauty... I think it really does boil down to kismat and destiny.
Nowadays, girls rather finish their bachelors at age 22-24, get a job, wait a little more, travel and then get married. I don't think getting married at 19 or 20 is a desire a lot of girls (out of Pakistan and India) hold. For myself, I rather wait till I'm done with my bachelors, have a job, spent good time with family and then get married after 25. Doesn't mean I'm "bad/not good looking"!
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^I know!! I remember my brother telling one of his potentials a few years back that I was "waiting" to get married.. as if I was dying to get married but couldn't..
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Wow!!! I don't know but perhaps it's in Pakistan that the "pretty" one get engaged or married fast. And hey what defines "best"? I know so many great girls who are 27-30 years old and not married. They're pursuing their masters, pious but just not married yet. I wouldn't say they're amazingly beautiful, but if I were a guy I rather go for them than a beautiful 18-20 year old with no degree or gd education. (Sorry!) however, perhaps guys prefer beauty... I think it really does boil down to kismat and destiny.
It's not even the guys. It's their mothers :) I've been to a couple of weddings where either the guy is more conventionally prettier, the bride is not skinny or gasp darker than the groom. These times the guy's mother is telling everyone it's the son's choice. As much as guys go for the pretty girls they also go for compatibility. Their mothers don't.
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This is quite true
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Main reason the guys rejected me was either because I was too skinny (Actually aunties had a problem with than more than the guys :D ) or did not know how to cook. And I rejected guys mainly due to the height difference. I would hate to walk with a man shorter than me. Eventually I have learned that I actually enjoy cooking (in my own time and convenience) & I still will not consider a guy who's shorter than me. Luckily, my parents were never "pushy" (except for a few times when my mom was actually frustrated with my constant 'nos'. And I was never in a rush and still ain't. If I met someone real good, I'll go for it no matter what age (mine or the guys). I have finally made myself available (as psych has put it very intelligently) but still not in a rush.
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The best girls and guys get married quickly as soon as they are available and ready to get hitched, they don't have to struggle if they are really best for sure.
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Main reason the guys rejected me was either because I was too skinny (Actually aunties had a problem with than more than the guys :D ) or did not know how to cook. And I rejected guys mainly due to the height difference. I would hate to walk with a man shorter than me. Eventually I have learned that I actually enjoy cooking (in my own time and convenience) & I still will not consider a guy who's shorter than me. Luckily, my parents were never "pushy" (except for a few times when my mom was actually frustrated with my constant 'nos'. And I was never in a rush and still ain't. If I met someone real good, I'll go for it no matter what age (mine or the guys). I have finally made myself available (as psych has put it very intelligently) but still not in a rush.
Hahah i can relate so much!
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Often these girls are also amongst the most sad as long as they are in that situation.