"The best girls get married quickly"

[Deeba1234]

Re: “The best girls get married quickly”

@redvelvet

In my family, the prettiest cousins got married later…mid to late twenties. Yup, even the ones in Pak. Alhumdolillah education was important for them and they completed their undergrad degrees. Some even pursued graduate degrees. I do not think it can be treated as an “absolute” that the prettiest get hitched early. Sure, they’re likely to get “more” rishtay and attention from an earlier age…that makes sense…but that doesn’t always guarantee an early marriage…or even a successful marriage. And like Decent 6 said above, “prettiness” is just one aspect of a girl…it doesn’t equate to her making the “best” wife. You don’t know how best or truly compatible a mate someone will be until you live with them. And the funny…(funny in a sad way) thing is that the folks (regular aunties, rishta-aunties, and dudes from Aligarh Uni) are likely to detract points from a pretty girl’s “bestness” if her marriage were to fail…in other words she will be blamed or suspected for not being “best enough.” I can just hear the weak arguments in my head “Itni khoobsurat gori chitti thi aur ghar na basaa saki…aur usay dekho jo aanwain si koji si shakal ki thi woh abhi tak apnay miyan k saath hai”…ignoring all other factors that make up a marriage and an individual. People and their over-simplified, half-baked theories. LOL.

Agree..

I think people who say this don’t take into account the fact that some girls nowadays prefer to wait..

The whole “best/prettiest girls get married quickly” thing obviously happens when people prioritise marriage over everything else.. My brother made the comment to my Mum when she was suggesting girls in their late twenties/thirtyish for him.. Some of them are gorgeous and educated (inc one who turned him down when he was looking the first time round).. He said something along the lines of “if they’re that great how come they’re still unmarried?” Erm because not everyone’s life revolves around trying to find a husband as quickly as possible..