A question for all those guppas or guppans who had an arranged marriage. What kinds of questions did u ask your spouse on your initial ‘chai’ meet? I’m referring to a situation where neither u or the person who you married knew each other. What was your first question?
There may be a thread on this already, if there is please post the linkie.
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nothing we chat for 3 mnths and then got married:)
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Come on people help a brother out I have to go through this one day too :( . So need to make notes......:p
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i answered whatever they asked me . but i never asked anything myself .
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Well, when u meet someone for the first time period (regardless of the circumstances) what do u talk abt? I’d suggest you keep it kinda light, nothing serious..ask abt her, what she does for a living, what she’s studing, what are her hobbies, find something u two have in common.. Wait until a few “dates” to ask her questions that wud potentially affect you, like does she plan to work after marriage, her views on certain things etc.
All in all, just be kewl, be casual,n above all don’t expect anything. Best of luck! 
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me too…meeting ur honai wali wife..
scary thought lol hopefully she won,t bite me 
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are you really going to use this as a reference? It is not like you are going on a business meeting.
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Just what I had in mind. 
First few questions on the top of my list (just to start off the conversation) would be about what she is doing at the moment.
Cool :k:
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yeah and if it's totally the arranged setting..dont freak her out by asking her questions infront of both parents..it's akward for the girl and maybe even you too
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I don't know if I did it right or not, but out of the first few questions I asked one was if she had any reason not to marry me and was marriage being imposed on her. Another one was related to my work schedule.
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isnt this what i was asking in my thread 
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LOL that reminds me of our first talk on the phone..
He says he made a list of questions to ask on a paper 
and I was just too confused and puzzled at that time, I couldnt even talk properly 
BTW I could tell that he was reading the questions from a paper, by the way he was asking me 
However the list of questions included a lot about me, what I wsa doing at that time, what were my plans in the future, where would I like to settle etc etc.
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it was brief, maybe 15-20min meeting… and he kept it very light and general.. somewhat like ‘what would you like to know about someone if you like to be his/her friend’ .. one of the thing he asked me whether i would like to study further and i clearly said ‘NO’… alas, he did made me to go back to school after shaadi 
.. it doesnt fit very well in your case Coolmunda.. but to all the girls who are looking for the partners, one of the things you should check in your family meetings is that how he treats the women of his own family .. that should give you an idea how would he treat you afterwards
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Well, there two types of questions:
questions for moving forward
questions for not moving forward
Questions for moving forward:
pretty much everthing others have metnioned
Questions for not moving forward:
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lolll @ luxuryitem
coolmunda..are you asking this for urself? if yes then tell us what happened?
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The first time we met, chai thingy, I didnt talk at all...He kept on insisting that is there anything I wanted to ask him. He kept on making jokes and laughing so hard at them himself...which was pretty weird as I had not heard any guy laugh in such a way b4. ...I didnt get his jokes BTW. I hated the fact that he was staring...and then some more....I almost felt like giving him a wack...
My husband still to this day says that I look Snobby big time....(which I have tried to change over the years)......
The next day we did talk , and I had made a list few days back...(From Readers digest:D )..my ami made fun of it the previous day in front of him, and he told me to go get it....it was funny, but I just was impressed that he wanted to hear that...I really dont know much about what sorta questions I wrote...But I was still impressed that he had cared enough to ask me to get them and that is why I said Yes to the proposal.....
I very much believe in long engagements...You get to know more about each other by talking to each other about your dreams and aspirations etc.
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^ If it's arranged, yeha long engagement makes sense.. but if it's love, then an even longer engagement doesnt erally make much sense
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How do you make biryani?
How do you make palak-gosht
how do you make kofte?
I recorded everything and tried to make it myself
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I recorded everything and tried to make it myself
If you are making all this yourself, why do you need her?
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how you doin?
wassssssssup
wuzz up yo
qua pasa chica
horrr ki haal hay tavada
aur..nai taazi
try all of the above,