pardon for the touchy title…but i think it suits many of us. 
why do we love to correct others, AND WANT THEM TO BE PERFECT, whereas we ourselves never even think of doing SELF EVALUATION of our own selves? 
…or we do, and wants our love ones to atleast get “jannat”. 
Re: thay-kay-dar
there are 2 issues, ppl giving unsolicited advice, and ppl getting ticked off about advice, unsolicited or solicited.
its simple
dont give unsolicited advice, unless its critical and to someone very close to you.
and if someone asks for advice, give them advice as what you think is right, whether or not you are able to follow it yourself, if they dont like it, its not your problem.
Re: thay-kay-dar
"show-off is in human nature" (its both good and bad)
many of us, in fact all of us wants to show our education, our knowledge and what life has taught us, so what you are telling me is the solution. i am talking about the fact that we face as a dilemma.
did you ever do your self evaluation, ever? and this "its not my heachache" kinda attitude, are you gonna keep it towards your children as well?
Re: thay-kay-dar
talk about yourself lady.
main to sara din apni evaluation karta hoon :halo:
Re: thay-kay-dar
"show-off is in human nature" (its both good and bad)
Giving advice is not showing off, is it? the person who gives me most advice in my life is my mother, I doubt she is showing off.
many of us, in fact all of us wants to show our education, our knowledge and what life has taught us, so what you are telling me is the solution. i am talking about the fact that we face as a dilemma.
I would state it a little differently, people like to use their education, exposure, experience and what life has taught us, to help others, so they dont make the same mistakes, or they have a better running start, whether it is helping a friend buy his firsty home, or help a new grad polish their resume.
" did you ever do your self evaluation, ever?
all the time, I believe in continuous improvement. how much of the self evaluation results in some plans to do things differently, and how successful I am in changing those things varies. But thats life, u keep trying.
"and this "its not my heachache" kinda attitude, are you gonna keep it towards your children as well?
I think we were speaking about adults seeking others for advice. and if someone seeks me for advice and does not follow it, what can I do? they are probably asking other ppl for advice and picking and choosing what works best for them for their circumstances. My job is to give them my honest view, what they do with it is upto them.
Re: thay-kay-dar
so u fail or pass most of the time?
Re: thay-kay-dar
^ now now, we shouldn't go there... thats confidential
Re: thay-kay-dar
wow…itna acha reply…
so tell me when we advice people, are we always honest with them? (from people i meant our friends, our acquaintance, and especially our colleagues)
ps. personally i dont think show-off is a bad thing. i mean if someone showing off in fronts of me, i get 
to do better than with him/her in a rational way.
but again many get offended. and they go further below in the building up their confident. (i gonna post an example for such scenario)
Re: thay-kay-dar
yeah do I get a trophy?
No, and that is why we need to factor in who we are asking advice from, and if we are goign to get random ppl, like on GS to give their perspectives, then we should only really use it as a point to ponder..so u are looking at some situation from many diff perspectives, use that as raw material to make you own decision.
Re: thay-kay-dar
may nay akhir aisa q kahan? 
X2, any idea?
ps. no trophy is left :o…sub ko baich k may nay 
lay leen!
abb yahi buncha hai> :k:
Re: thay-kay-dar
and if someone asks for advice, give them advice as what you think is right, whether or not you are able to follow it yourself, if they dont like it, its not your problem.
That is another issue. I know some people who not only love to give advice but expect you to follow it and if you dont, they take it as an offense. Gets quite irritating sometimes
Re: thay-kay-dar
^^ y u have to bring me into this 
Re: thay-kay-dar
:) always
Re: thay-kay-dar
We’re part of the Desi community, 'nuff said 
On a more serious note, it depends on where the corrective suggestion is coming from. For example a father telling his 10 yr old son to not click on a link for an objectionable site (doesn’t matter if the dad himself would click on it if he was by himself is irrelevant) is training him for later years, in the process building character. But if the same person tells his colleague not to click on it, is just plain being mean 
(ok, so it was not so serious, but still… )
Re: thay-kay-dar
wo na naseehat achee cheez hey, men kerta hoon sab ko
I is also do thsi advising..aho
Re: thay-kay-dar
main nasehat he nahin karoon gye martay waqt :shoaby:
Re: thay-kay-dar
Logon ko dosroon ki aankh mein para hua tinka nazar aa jata hai per apni aankh may para hua shehteer nazar nai aata!
Re: thay-kay-dar
That is another issue. I know some people who not only love to give advice but expect you to follow it and if you dont, they take it as an offense. Gets quite irritating sometimes
what about people expecting the same from those who give advice .. that is, they follow their own words too?? Is there anything wrong in such expectations.... no one wants to have their friends being Hypocrite, do they?
Re: thay-kay-dar
wwah!..btw kis per yeh aag k golay bersanay ka irada hai app ka
