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Thank you 
I’m from Maharashtra in India - close to Bombay. This no gifts policy is pretty common in the area.
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Clearly you didn’t understand my post… the point was it is the couple’s choice to do what they want to do. Why are you dictating your peeves as the word of higher power? - just because you like things a certain way doesn’t mean someone else wants to do it another way - doesn’t make you right nor wrong either.
As for culture, I am sorry but not everyone is of “desi” culture. Also I have attended a few weddings in Pakistan (5-6 yrs ago) - they all had “favors” with a thank u note! In my opinion, it is redundant to have thank-you notes in form of favors at wedding and then sending thank you notes (be it printed) again. I mean good for you if you did that… but sorry not everyone has time, money or resources. I think one thing we can all adopt from Western culture is openness to other ideas and not being condescending in our tone!
Anyway have a nice day!
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And here I am thinking it was the mans duty to pay for everything, obviously not in your world but then not every man is as poor as you.
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Perhaps I didn’t understand what you were trying to say…and maybe I still don’t get it.
Nowhere have I suggested that the couple does not have a choice. I’ve simply expressed my opinion on the said choice.
I appreciate you understanding that this is my opinion and it doesn’t make me either right or wrong but then don’t be offended and suggest that I’m dictating anything at all.
Umm…just in case you didn’t notice…this is a predominantly “desi” forum. So you will find that the vast majority of topics will be discussed in light of “desi” culture, traditions, etc.
You are very welcome to believe that it is redundant to have favours and then send out thank you cards after the fact. And if this is what you wish to do or have done then be confident in it and don’t be hurt or offended if, according to my opinion, you didn’t make the mark. After all, that’s only my opinion and perhaps the opinion of a few others…
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huh?
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What makes you think it’s about a person being poor?? (That poster isn’t AT ALL poor btw)
A lot of women (inc myself) don’t expect our husbands to pay for everything for us, even if they could do it quite easily and are very comfortable financially..
We choose to be educated and independent..
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Thank You.
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LOL…think harder before you try your hand at thinly veiled insults again. This doesn’t even make sense and actually ends up insulting the men in your own family. 
You didn’t feel the need to also mention that I’m not a man?! 
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this thread is still going alive. damn
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No. Thank You.
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hahah I’m dying.
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I wrote about 200 thank you notes after the wedding. It was about 4 months after the wedding when I sent them out, but at least I got them done. I waited to get the pictures from the shadi and valima and the thank you note was a postcard with a collage of the pictures from both events. My extended family has never received thank you notes and they were very happy and surprised. I even have my Phuppos voicemail saved where she sounds like she’s about to cry, she loved the card that much.
To answer your poll, I’ve never received a thank you note yet, but apparently it’s common in my in laws family so I should be expecting a few cards this summer.