Thank You - After You've had Your Dream Wedding....

Muzna · April 7, 2015, 12:47pm

Re: Thank You - After You’ve had Your Dream Wedding…

^ This. Brides and grooms (and yes, sometimes their parents as well), have a sense of entitlement that they are owed something by the guests they invite. Gone are the days that a wedding was about celebrating a marriage and sharing in one another’s happiness. Now the quality of the guests is literally measured in how much money is made at the end of the night. And to note - this isn’t exclusive to desis - I’ve seen it in non-desis (Europeans and South Americans) who literally do a tally of the cash received at the end of the night.

Don’t get me wrong, I know of some guests who also have expectations and a sense of entitlement - but usually their expectations/entitlements are limited to prime seats at the wedding, tasty and plentiful food and photo ops with the bride and groom. Sure some guests may turn their nose up at venues and number of buffet items , but honestly - these are the people you just shouldn’t invite to your wedding, because they are the sort of people who don’t really know how to be happy for someone else. Exclude them if you can, but if its your khala/mamoon/tayee etc. and an invite is mandatory, treat them with respect, but ignore their negativity. And for God’s sake do NOT invite the mumaani’s (subsitute phupha or tayee, etc.) three sisters and two brothers, plus their spouses, and their combined 18 children plus cousins of these relatives. This is where we are our own worst enemies with a guest list made up to satisfy appearances rather than our happiness.

SO, SO, SO true!!!