Re: Thank You - After You’ve had Your Dream Wedding…
Common courtesy to say thank you by following up after the event… oh please, come on. This is not a “common” courtesy at all anywhere in the world.
People thank guest on the day. In desi culture, the elders welcome and say good bye to the guests as well.
To expect a couple to follow-up after the wedding is just high handedness. It would be very sweet and nice of them to do but totally understood by all (or 99.99999%) why it doesn’t happen.
No one said they had to be handwritten. If some doesn’t think they can do handwritten for whatever reason, it’s not difficult to order pre-written cards with a generic “Mr. and Mrs. ___ would like to thank you for sharing in their happy day” etc. etc. If you had let’s say 500 guests who attended, it would not take more than a few hours to write the names/address on envelope and stick a stamp on it. If husband/wife divide up the task, it’ll go even faster.
You know it all comes down to our priorities. Despite school/job and whatever obligation they have, desi brides manage to spend whatever time they need when it comes to planning the wedding. Dress, jewelry, make-up, decor etc…somehow no desi bride says they’re “too busy” for this or spending so much time planning the wedding will make them ganji. The girl I mentioned earlier…who wrote hand-written notes for hundreds of guests…she is a full-time practicing Oncologist and also went through the moving/setting up, working full-time while she did it. She split the task with her husband and they had a plan…they EACH wrote 10 cards per day. So even if you did that, over a span of a few weeks, you can get several hundred thank you cards out. No one is saying this has to be done in a day.
Its not that you and your husband did not have time to write the thank you cards. You just preferred spending that time doing something else. After all, I doubt you turned down any dawats because you were just so busy with your job/shifting/setting up furniture during those 6+ months.