Terms of Endearment

redvelvet · October 17, 2011, 2:12am

So do you have any favorites? Which ones do you dislike?

I personally don’t like “dear” too much. I don’t mind it coming from people I know pretty well and some people can pull it off. I have noticed that some girls from Pak use it often…and when combined with not-so-good English…it sounds Aunty’ish. Why must they use it…WHY?!? :no: It’s among my pet-peeves. There, I said it!!! Ducks from the tamaater that will be hurled my way.

KKF · October 17, 2011, 2:28am

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i hate it people when they call me ‘YAAR’…well, if we aren’t friends, we ain’t ‘YAARS’…however, ‘YAARAA’ may be [just may be] OK because it doesn’t carry the same connotation as ‘YAAAR’. what you say?

redvelvet · October 17, 2011, 2:31am

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I don’t mind yaar. I know that it means “friend”…but I think that it’s so casually used that it’s like the equivalent of the word “guys” in English. Yaara, on the other hand, sound gay (IMO)…not a fan of it.

KKF · October 17, 2011, 2:33am

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hmmm…achchhaa ji. hamaare Lucknow meN ise buraa samjhaa jaataa hai is liye maiN ne kahaa

redvelvet · October 17, 2011, 2:38am

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I think I once heard (dunno if it was from my mom or someone else) that it doesen’t look good when girls/women to say “yaar” too much. I don’t really care, unless it’s over-done.

KKF · October 17, 2011, 2:43am

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YES, you heard it right…it’s NOT considered ‘moHazzab’ in tahzeeb-yaaftah cultures to say "YAAR’…it’s for both men N women but more so if girls say it…talk about gender bias! hehe

Naabigh · October 17, 2011, 4:22am

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Dude is the one I cant stand if it comes under the terms of endearment ..

wayse I dont like using baby doll and cutie pie kind of stuff - too gay for my liking

NomiCA · October 17, 2011, 5:26am

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Just because your people don’t like to use it doesn’t make it bad-tehzeeb…

uzzybuzzy · October 17, 2011, 8:48am

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I totally agree with your opinion about dear. All my cousins in Pakistan use it and it sounds so old fashioned.

Sohaib · October 17, 2011, 2:52pm

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dear should only be used in professional communications IMO

For casual ones I use jigar, yaar, dude etc. .

waleedhbk · October 17, 2011, 2:55pm

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I use Yaar with almost everyone and jigar with my cousins

Enigmatic · October 17, 2011, 2:56pm

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yaara, jani, dear, darling

all of these make me cringe too !

Sara516 · October 17, 2011, 4:34pm

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HEY YOU!

Dil_Pakistan · October 17, 2011, 4:42pm

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I dislike:

(exsessive use of ) jaaniye and sohniye

It sounds very fake. “Hi jaaniye” “hello sohniye”

waleedhbk · October 17, 2011, 4:43pm

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Thats sounds too filmy …Janiye Sohniye lol

Dil_Pakistan · October 17, 2011, 4:45pm

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I know lot of girls who talk like this.
Using these words in every sentence

waleedhbk · October 17, 2011, 4:46pm

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And lots of girls use Darling too

redvelvet · October 17, 2011, 4:47pm

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“Jaani” is cringe-inducing…I don’t care care if it’s said by a guy or a woman. Blech. Don’t like jigar much either.

Sohaib · October 17, 2011, 5:00pm

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^ jigar is a ‘guy’ thing and suits them only.

theway · October 17, 2011, 5:04pm

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i use cutie,dearie,butterscotch,cutesy aur kabhi kabhi Yaar