If you had an arranged marriage but were in love with someone else would you tell your husband/wife about your past?Do you think its wise to tell the truth or stay quiet and hope he/she never finds out?
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Dont tell straight away…live with the person, understand him, see what his views are about these things… If he’s open minded enough, then tell him randomly sum day,making no big deal about it :halo:
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yeah but with guys.. you never know, they're all open-minded and everything until it comes to their wife... and then they're like WHAT?! forget it... talak talak talak... meanwhile tehyve had numerous girlfriends before marriage... its just their ego... tehy want the wife to be perfect but meanwhile they're closer to being a devil than an angel lol
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am i wrong or are women generally more accepting and forgiving toward their spouse than men?
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Once i heard it in an islamic lecture i was attending that "Don't dig in to ur wife or husband's past leave it for Allah (swt), but instead care for the future" ..
So keeping that in mind i would never wanna know about my husband's past nor i will judge him by his past. How he will be with me after marriage is all i will judge him by.. Neither do i want my husband to dig in to my past... I will be completely loyal and honest to him after marriage and tat is wat i expect from him.. past main kia ghalti howeee hum dono say i don't care.. ...
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Oh my god, here we go again 
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From what i have seen (with friends and some family members) this can actually backfire - i agree that women are usually more open-minded to such talk although they do feel the sting of jealousy from time to time and i think it can make you a little suspicious too everytime your husband doesnt answer the fone or is late home.
Whereas i think most husbands (who i've heard of in similar situations) try and play it cool, but it eats away inside them and they go all funny with their wife. They find it more difficult to carry on with life than a woman does cos they cannot digest the truth that their wife had ever been with someone other than themselves - yet these men should take alonge hard look at themselves in the mirror and justify why they feel like that...
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bt times have changes, u shudn't have to go through with a marriage unless u wanted to, so if u loved someone else marry him/her.
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I would go with what Princess Fiona has said. Let Allah judge the two. Besides, there is no point in it to share/explore the past of your spouse as the person who has been bad in the past would soon start demonstrating his/her habits and you would know one way or other. In case not, the person had either been always clean or has changed to be good so no problem again.
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If it is something of the past, let it remain there.
If the two of you are mature individuals, it will not matter whether or not you know what happened before you hooked up. The future is important , focus on it.
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Let it remain in the past...otherwise u'd only be opening a whole can of worms.
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In this day and age it's really dishonest of you to be marrying someone until you have resolved your feelings for the other person. That said, if you do go ahead with it, you should leave the past in the past.
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definitely . becaz i believe in having sincere relationship with any1 -- be it a friend or .. fiance etc .
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yeah but some love can never be forgotten... lets say ur ex is married now, but youre still in love with him and maybe even friends with him... is that ok?
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would you let your Husband to keep in touch with his ex girlfriend or fiance...where would you draw a line?
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i would
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dun have past just present and future so ma wife won,t have something to worry about…other then our future together ofcourse:hayaa: ..and yeh i would like to know everything of her past..did she had a boyfriend …if she had then ta ta…my search will go on for a honest and decent girl:LB: …
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lemon there is a pattern to your questions here, i am beginning to think this is not all hypothetical.
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LOL not really it just interests me i have a lot of people who have had similar issues and its me, my cousin and my friend using this sn... but since when is there a rule about all questions having to be hypothetical
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no rule, but if it is a real situation then some times more iformation is needed to help the person see thru the situation, because general stetemets apply t general situations, if there are more specifics sometimes the how and what etc has to be fine tuned