Re: Tell me
[FONT="]Pick ur battles.
compromise between work, original family and p[personal aims, is just as much of a hard thing for women as it is for men.
unfortunately, through, the social acceptance, and in fact expectation of adaptation is only trusted on women.
and u are a brave person, trying to manage the various aspects of ur personal aims as a career woman, as having ur own say about what u want to do and where, so be polite, yet firm an sincere in saying this to ur fiancé', take him into ur confidence and see what happens.
one thing that marriage teaches is patience and trust.
undoubtedly, the mutual regard and consultation in marriage is suppopsed to make the lover grow fonder and realign both party's aims as a natural outcome of their union of 2 people are one, with perhaps differing views and ideals and visions, as one also.
be an optimist.
give it a sincere shot.
I had an agreement with my fiancee that we will move to my country after the first half year of our marriage. So I could renew my contract here and travel back and forth between him and my country in that period. So I go on and start applying within the company I work for and get a good offer but unfortunately my future boss could compromise with letting me work remote for many days in a row so I had to turn the offer down after a lot of effort.
So my fiancee suggests that I can apply for work in his country and I go like " we'll move back to my country later, right?" and he is like"we'll see...it depends on how you feel about being away from your family after the long period"
And I get stunned. Cuz I thought we had an agreement/understanding that we will move after those months. I made it very clear to him that I will move to his country cuz of his family situation but since that wont be relevant after some period, then we can move to my country. Now he goes like soche gein....what is that about?and where is the credibility?bande to ek baat karni chahye aur ussi par qaym rehna chahye!!!!
Or do u think I am being childish???
I feel like I am going back to the depressed state of mind. It took me forever to get out of it and his promise to move was one very important factor in me feeling better.
Do u think I am immature?
I know that girls have to give up a lot in our culture but I am really feeling miserable right now, crying, that just the fact that we are women, we are expected to give up our family, career, freinds and network. It is just not fair!!!